F -‘FACEBOOK’

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In today’s world, not having Facebook is of the same kind to falling sick. Surely something must be wrong with you if you have no social account. How will people follow your achievements, your relationships or your weight gain or stalk?

If something happens and you don’t put it on Facebook, did it ever happen? Facebook is the end-all and be-all of socializing; that having no social network is the same as having no friends.

But what our connected world has not taken into account are the several ways in which Facebook can harm our lives, instead of enhancing them. Sure, you can reconnect with lost friends and family, find job opportunities and keep a digital log of your life. But more commonly Facebook has become a dark hole β€” a place where jealousy and competition breed, where self-worth is defined by a catalogue of carefully tagged pictures and an overall productivity time-suck.

As if you haven’t punished yourself enough for that unwanted weight gain, Facebook makes it worst. Looking at others’ online albums left them wishing for the same body or weight as the person pictured — creating more negative feelings than a fashion magazine might stir up.

Recruiters use a candidate’s profile as part of the screening process, but those recruiters have rejected candidates based on the content they saw. That sentiment alone could communicate that you aren’t a Facebook addict, that you will ultimately be more productive at work.

If you’re going through a breakup, get off Facebook. No one wants to read your bitter statuses claiming to be “over it.” After the messy breakup is over, you’ll be able to forget your ex that much faster — without stalking him or her. They don’t say “ignorance is bliss” for no reason.

Facebook breeds jealousy. Most people use the social network to post celebratory moments. Reading a continuous stream of other people’s happy moments can almost directly correlate to feeling negative about yourself, as well as comparing your accomplishments to others.

For these reasons and more I have simply logged off and deactivated my account long back. Reducing the time spent on social activities, could greatly improve your quality of life. What do you think about deactivating your account? Have you ever tried it?

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14 thoughts on “F -‘FACEBOOK’

  1. Facebook does have its drawbacks, but I depend on it to stay in touch with friends, family and business connections all over the globe. Despite spending quite a lot of time on facebook I can honestly say I’ve never felt that I am comparing myself to others on there or being jealous or envious of their success – on the contrary, I often find that spending some time reading up on the latest from friends and acquaintances will raise my spirits and brighten my day.

    But that’s just my experience.

  2. True tru true. Reading this was like going over my husband’s conversation. He hates it when I “check-in” all the time! But yes, I take a break of ten-fifteen days every two months to keep me sane! Facebook gets to you after a while! Weel penned! πŸ™‚

  3. Thankfully I am not much of a facebook person. I go there rarely and whenever I do, i end up spending way too much time. But that said, it does have its uses and is a great way to connect unless of course it becomes a obsession πŸ˜‰

  4. Well written post 😊
    I had deactivated Facebook two months before exams.. And now I’m active on Facebook just for the blogging group! Really, all the points that you have said are true. We tend to believe that what people put up on facebook is true, and that makes us jealous and unhappy at times. We are so busy looking at other people’s achievements, that we forget to work on our own goals.
    Keep going, girl 😊

  5. FB has the drawbacks you mentioned. But, lot of positives too. My entire blogging world is on FB as the blogging world itself is virtual. It has helped me a lot in finding like minded individuals.

    Personally, I use it to keep in touch with family spread over the world. But, I don’t feel I have to constantly update my status or wish my family via Facebook or provide my children’s updates.

  6. Very true Romila. I have two FB accounts, one for blogging and another personal. I hardly visit the personal one as it is like a mad competition out there. Who is doing what better! Your thoughts are absolutely spot on! I do switch off when I need to concentrate on work at it feels liberating!
    @KalaRavi16 from
    Relax-N-Rave

  7. I have deactivated my fb A/c long and those months were best months, even though i have a new A/c but i don’t visit it much. Seriously, Facebook make an exhibition for us where we post every silly n sick moment and photos… Well stated πŸ™‚

  8. I have to say that in today itself, that is on the ‘F’ letter day I have read similar sentiments about Facebook for the third time and probably the fifth time in this month alone.
    The bottom-line is, Facebook addiction has gone beyond eating up our valuable time and peace of mind to exposing us to the creepy side of cyber world where our privacy is at stake 24*7.
    The less we indulge in it the better.
    Beautifully written. Best wishes for the A to Z challenge.

    My Era @theerailivedin
    The Era I Lived In

  9. I hear you! I’ve started avoiding Facebook because I find there’s a new trend of abrasive negativity. Everyone’s always arguing with everyone over differences in opinions. It overwhelms me sometimes. That said – I’ve been learning how to manage it by unfriending casual acquaintances who are too contentious or unfollowing people so their posts are removed from my newsfeed. And I’ve increase the number of pages I follow that are focused on things I love like art and writing/literature and home decor and film. It’s all about management, I think!

  10. Having said that, i agree that Facebook makes the lives of others ook far more exciting as opposed to ours, it does breed a certain insecurity that i think is difficult to deal with.

  11. Excess of anything is harmful. While I’m a social media enthusiast, my life is still not on Facebook. I don’t check in all the time and I’m happy that I can find the balance. Your post is great reminder of how social media has taken over our lives.

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