You must go on in your life, without relying on others, self-dependent and self-confident. In other words, self-help should be the guiding principle of your life, your idea and your aspirations. But circumstanced as you are or a person in general, absolute self-reliance is impossible. You live in a society where the rule is mutual help. You give and receive. This is perfectly right. Wrong comes in only when you take without giving anything in return, when rights are enjoyed or plunder but not exchange. But though absolute self-dependence is impossible, yet there is ample room for self-reliance in your life.

In actual practise we depend too much on others, we rely too much on other’s help, sympathy, fellow feeling and goodness. But this habit in actual term is harmful. It takes away all your energy and initiative. It fills you with helplessness. Just as a child, who is not allowed to walk for fear of falling becomes lame in the long run, so we turn morally lame and deformed if we never try to practise self help in life.

By expecting too much from others, you get to invite ridicule, pity, scorn and disgust. You are looked upon as hangers and parasites. You become dead in terms of respect and honor. Your own importance in the midst of people, full of energy makes you miserable. Nothing is more pitiable than to live in jealousy.

Different is however the picture of yourself as a self-reliant. You are brave and determined. You trust no outside help; expect no windfall, struggles with difficulties, gathering strength and experiences at every stage. You may succeed or fail but you are always an object of awe, respect and admiration.

Being self-reliant is rewarded by the earth and heaven alike. You get the homage of people around you. In a world, where success is so rare, you succeed, where many are called but a few chose, you receive the invitation.

Nothing is nobler and surer than self-help. Gifts of fortune are uncertain. Even when you get them, you cannot always enjoy them in peace. There is always a feeling that you have got more or less than you deserve. There is always an anxiety that these gifts, being not earned, may go away suddenly as they came in your life.

Practise begets felicity. If you make up your mind not to be depended upon others, but to do all your works yourself as far as possible, if you are determined to stand on your legs and not lean upon others, you are full of energy. You shall soon get enough self-confidence, a faith and will power which will move even mountains.

Author: Novemberschild

I write a lot, which keeps me off the streets and out of trouble. There is always something to write about, always a new story to craft. Not writing, for me, is like trying to hold back a sneeze. Learning to write was the most powerful influence in my life. I can still remember the awe I felt when I realized I could put real words onto paper and tell out a story. From that first ‘a-ha’ moment I knew I wanted to write.

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5 thoughts on “S- ‘SELF RELIANCE’

  • April 28, 2016 at 8:37 pm

    Nice and meaningful post. That is the need of the hour today for everyone. Thanks for sharing it. 🙂

    @bloggerabhi1 from

  • April 22, 2016 at 9:43 pm

    I’m definitely self reliant – after all the world doesn’t owe me any favours. It is nice to accept help every now and again though from a trusted friend or family member

  • April 22, 2016 at 5:29 pm

    Such an important aspect, especially for women in India. I wish more of us thought this way. The strength of self-reliance, the self-confidence it generates are all worth achieving. Well written Romila.

  • April 22, 2016 at 2:11 pm

    I used to never believe in self-reliance, and used to hate it when people didn’t ask me for help because they were ‘self-reliant’.
    But now that I’ve grown a little bit more wiser, I understand the need for being self-reliant. The blog has helped me become so self-reliant, and my biggest achievement was shifting from Blogger to WordPress without any significant help from anyone!
    Good post, dear 🙂

  • April 22, 2016 at 12:28 am

    And I can say I am ‘self- realiance’
    After reading this one 🙂

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