Go away Resolutions


Let’s face it — it’s pretty pointless waiting all year to decide on one or two things that you kind, sort to want to stop doing, but that you know full well you’re not really committed to following through with anyway. How crazy is that? Resolutions don’t work. Stop smoking? Start exercising? Eat healthily? More work/life balance? These all sound good on the surface, but typically a resolution is based on what you think you should be doing, rather than what you really want to be doing. Too often, resolutions are decided upon by looking at other peoples expectations or by reading a magazine that tells you how to ‘get fit by summer’. Nonsense – forget about what you or other people think you ought to be doing and look at what you really want.

The problem is that as soon as you set yourself a goal you’re saying to yourself that you want more in your life than you have right now. The very nature of goals make you look forwards at what’s next, never at what you’ve got right now. Goals have the tendency to make you feel less-than, because there’s something you don’t have now that you aspire to have in the future. The real gold and real value is in the experience, NOT in the end result.

The problem is that you’re taking something that doesn’t mean anything to you and trying to make it happen. Resolutions lack a foundation of meaning and personal relevance that makes sure they run out of steam. Sure, you might get an initial burst of motivation that gets you started, but that never lasts. Motivation is like the big rocket boosters on the space shuttle – it gives you an initial spurt of energy to get up and get moving, but it’s just not sustainable.

Not only are you coming off the back of the holidays and getting back to the harsh realities of the world, but you see the whole of the year stretching ahead of you and summer’s a whole 6 months away. Living a full life isn’t about making some woolly, half-hearted decisions that don’t really mean anything. That’s not what truly confident people do. Instead, make confident choices based on what really matters to you, and jump in with both feet.

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3 thoughts on “Go away Resolutions

  • January 3, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    Resolutions without practical doing does not work- I think we should talk about our resolutions or I must say – Our expectations from self- the whole year so that we don’t fail. We need not wait for new year eve to start but yes, why not create one on this day too. I will practice this habit of Minimalism the whole year and not only with my Shopping but in every practical way. You are right though – half-hearted decisions that don’t really mean anything..but if they are whole-hearted…what say?

  • January 2, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. I make resolutions, and sometimes those resolutions happen to be made on January 1. Most of the time, they aren’t.
    So why don’t I make it a habit to resolve to commit to something for the new year? Simple: because I find it a waste of time. It’s a waste of time if I wait until the first of January to make my resolution. If I realize I need to commit to something new, and if it’s important enough to truly resolve to do it, then it would be silly for me to wait until the turn of the new year.

  • January 2, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    I do not have any resolutions either Romila! I have the practice of mindmapping my days and weeks ahead of time and it works better that a resolution for the year. In fact last year I had listed a few resolution in my college WhatsApp group. We did this for fun, but believe me none of it actually worked. So from now on it is no yearly resolutions.
    Happy New Year dear!

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