November 8 2016

Day#8 To my Mother-in-law

As a little girl I visualized my wedding, about being a beautiful princess in a dreamy dress preparing to live happily ever after with her Prince Charming, than come a break in form of a woman who raised Prince Charming and who believes that he belongs ONLY to her. The Mother-in-Law (MIL)/Daughter-in-Law (DIL) relationship is often very complex for a variety of reasons. I am not married yet but I have seen marriage being broken because of the mother-in-law involving between the couple beyond the limit. I really wish to have a great relationship with my future mother-in-law. I am aware that it won’t be easy but I hope it should not be difficult too. Misunderstandings and some minor disagreements are common between 2 people and are more in families, but through communication and even some limit-setting on both of our parts I am sure of sharing a remarkable relationship with my future mother-in-law.

I read an article titled “5 Expert Tips for a Better Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law”, not once but I read it again twice. I really liked those 5 tips mentioned in the article. Mothers-in-law have gotten a bad, a real awful status in history. Jokes on their torture, demands, and expectations from their daughters-in-law have long been part of our society and the challenges don’t seem to be letting up. These mothers-in-law of television and films further the fire. After reading the article couple of times, here are few things which I have found really helpful.

To be a wonderful daughter-in-law it is significant to know that your gain may feel like your mother-in-law’s loss. Have consideration with her. She has been the main woman in your husband’s life and wholly much-loved by him since he was born, being a daughter-in-law this has to be time-honoured and remembered. Be kind, even if the mother-in-law’s talks and manners drives you insane. Be open to the possibility of being friends with your mother-in-law, it prevents half of the problems. Let her know that you are interested in her as a person and she is a big part of your life. She’s not your mother so instead of being judgmental better to find out the differences and work on them.

I feel not just the daughter-in-law but even the mother-in-law has to cooperate to have a good and friendly relationship. Respect your son and his wife even if they don’t do things the way you would. Give the younger couple lots of space to grow and figure things out on their own. Be positive! Don’t assume the negative first. Be accessible, but not demanding with the daughter-in-law.

The challenges in the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship are not always in the hands of mother-in-law. Every relationship is two way street. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are complex and multi-faceted which can be made kind, empathetic and straightforward, resulting in fulfilling and nourishing relationship.

This Post is written for Day#8 of NaBloPoMo which challenges you to a blog post every single day in November. This is a great opportunity to publish posts daily, meet other bloggers, and try something new. 

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