One shape on one Globe

One shape on one Globe, but why?

Her zero waist and thunder thighs

I’m stuck with having just nice eyes, but why?

That long black hair and her perfect skin

I’m trying to just get into shape, but why?

The society praises the ideal woman

Who exists flawlessly only in the magazines

We edit, nip, tuck and afflict our bodies

As we are the ‘object’, men lust about, but why?

I want to change this outlook as we are not objects. When we act inside the lines of society it changes our principles, we act wickedly because that is what is expected. Men face stereo types but are told to ignore them but as women we are told to grip them but why? How can we not with main stream celebrities flaunting their tall, short, skinny bodies and we are thick. There’s more than one form so just take that in. The stereo types of flawlessness are not fair. Women hurt themselves to be perfect…I think it’s time we stand up and be concerned. Every woman is different as we come in many shapes and sizes so why do we make one mould? We need to embrace the variations because if were all the same, don’t you think it might get old?

This post is written for #BLOGCHATTER prompt: WHY?

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Wordy Wednesday #3

This Week: Sentence Prompts

Call it what you will, incentives are what get people to work harder.
– Nikita Khrushchev

Cultivate the habit of early rising. It is unwise to keep the head long on a level with the feet.
– Henry David Thoreau

The struggles of ours are constant. Whatever profession we are in the struggles are same. The nature maybe differs but the intensity is never different. Everyone who is at the top has not achieved it without toiling and burning the midnight oil. I have been doing the same for the past 10 years to reach wherever I am at this time. I have burned much of the midnight oil that my health has been affected. The only thing that has kept me going was the intense desire to make a mark in my chosen field.  “Call it what you will, incentives are what get people to work harder – – Nikita Khrushchev”, the quote from Khrushchev has worked well with me, though he had said it in a different context altogether. During his time the USSR was a different country. Though it is not a country anymore but the ethics of it remains and has been there since time itself started. There are 4 types of people on this planet. The first kind are know don’t know what they want, second, knows what they want but are unaware of the ways and are unable to plan to get it, third, knows what they want and are aware of the plans to get there but are too lazy, or hesitant to get there. And lastly are those who know what they want and have the plans ready, and are determined to take any measures to achieve it. They are the kind of people who have taken the words of Henry David Thoreau to their heart. “Cultivate the habit of early rising. It is unwise to keep the head long on a level with the feet.” They are the ones who set their own incentives and work towards it. For the rest of the people, incentives are set by others. Work or lose your job, or head or be sent to Gulag. I guess the incentive is enough for the first 3 types of the people. This reminds me of a great quote from Steven Aitchison “Take control of your life or someone else will”.

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Why I choose to love myself

For me life was never easy. My problems had to do with my self-loathing attitude. I struggled feeling comfortable in my own skin, had a huge amount of insecurities, and unresolved inner conflicts that all bubbled to the surface as soon as I didn’t have something to distract myself from them.

Once I realized this, it all made sense. I realized that no matter what I achieved or had in my life I would always be in a state of lacking. My toxic attitude was rendering me incapable of seeing the beauty that was in front of me.

I knew I had to do something because if I kept living this way I would continue setting myself up for an eternal state of lacking. I would be choosing to stay the same and relinquish my right to choose what is of my life.

So I decided to choose to create a life I love. Every time I would catch myself thinking I was stupid, I’d pause, take a deep breath, and change my language. One of my biggest blocks to self-love was thinking I wasn’t smart enough. Slowly shifting to the growth mindset, in which I believe that my intelligence is something I change and build upon, has been hugely important. The point of the growth mindset is to believe that you’re abilities are always expandable. You can always grow as a person as long as you put in the work.

Today I am choosing to love myself because love is my purpose. I am in this world to spread love, and of “being” love. By embodying love, I am honoring my own unique contribution to the world. I came to see that I have worth and value. I am “fearfully and wonderfully made.” Despite my constant subjection to people who are prettier than me, more talented than me, and more intelligent than me, I still choose to love me. I’m not perfect; I never will be and that is okay.

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