This Time Next Year

Be still blogging
I’d love to still keep up my blogging on a regular basis as I’m really enjoying it, and hopefully I will have done some exciting things to blog about! And attend more blogger meet up, that’d be fab.

Be further on in my books…
I started writing books.  I mean, I used to write all the time but I haven’t properly written in years, I’d love to see if I can actually keep this up.
I want to have more confidence and care less about what other people think about me.
I think I can achieve this by continuing blogging, thinking about the people around me whose opinions I care about and starting to accept myself for who I am. When I can accomplish that I think I would care less about what other people think about me.
I may be married or Should I say I want to get married
Marriage is one of the most memorable day of everyone’s life. I want to be blessed by god and see myself being married by Next year same time. Wish me luck

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Rafflesia-Banished-Princess

Blurb: The curtains draw up. Lights are dimmed. The musical is about to begin. As the beautiful princess descends on stage, the mythical creatures from her kingdom come alive. Flickers of brilliant colours blaze across as mesmerizing music pulsates from one corner of the theatre to the other. A fairy tale is about to unfold…As young children, we often come across things that stay in our hearts forever. For Appu, it is a fairy tale about a beautiful princess. He lives with her in a world filled with the magical creatures from her kingdom until the real world beckons. A reluctant Appu steps into it as a striking young man and struggles to find his place. What follows is an evocative tale of love and loss, friendship and betrayal, as the story travels through the snow-peaked mountains of Arunachal to the golden deserts of Jaisalmer, the tulip gardens of Holland to the lush greens of Kerala. Does Appu find what he had set out for? The answer lies in Rafflesia — The Banished Princess because in her story, lay his!”

About the author: A B-School graduate, Gautam is a business analyst by profession. Considers the laptop as among his best friends and nurses a secret desire to turn an entrepreneur someday.

Review:  Some stories are so interesting and some on the other hand are boring to death. They sound as if they are preaching philosophies and verses from the texts, despite having a movie type writing approach Rafflesia – The Banished Princess by author Gautam did not appeal to my reading style. The main protagonist of the novel is Appu who has a complete psychic outlook in life. The cover was not much interesting or the blurb but as I had to write this review, I forced myself to read it to complete. It is all about Appu whose is an introvert by his life situations. His friend Rahul is opposite to him who enjoys his life to the fullest. The story is about Appu who is on the way to divorce his wife Jharna. The mental torture and disturbances he goes through is what the rest of the story talks about including giving us the reason why his wife Jharna separated from him within 2 days of the wedding. The book has many characters apart from Appu, Jharna and Rahul, such as Sunaina– the lawyer, Trina – Appu’s mother, Aabir – Appu’s father, Sujata – the linking character to the metaphor and few here and there situated in India and Holland and also Bunty. The plot and theme of the story is so known that there is no scope for suspense or chilling element, this is what made this book a disappointment for me. I did not find anything wonderful in the story though sometimes the writing went complicated. The author stretched the story to a long way making it really bore reading for me as sometimes it turned very slow adding more hours to read it.  If you are someone who wants to test their reading patience, I highly recommend you to pick the book – The Banished Princess. I tested my patience, though not happy with the content/story writing, I passed out successfully reading the length bore book. If this book doesn’t get into your genre, you can skip it.

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Why you need to unplug?

It’s been a pretty quiet week on the blog. Honestly, I’ve been feeling drained mentally, physically, and creatively. You know that feeling when nothing brings you joy anymore, even the things you love, and you can’t seem to shake off that feeling of complete exhaustion. It sucks, but we all go through it.

If you think about it, we spend most of our day being glued to our phones and computers. Being connected to the world 24/7 can really take a toll on our well being. In the same way that we need a vacation away from our jobs, it’s equally as important to take a vacation away from our computers and phones. Here’s a few reasons why you need to unplug:

1. It allows you to have some “me time”
I can’t stress the importance of having a little me time. Having some time alone allows you to clear your mind and recharge. Take some time to take care of yourself. This can be taking a nap, working out, or doing one of your hobbies.

2. It allows you to spend more time with friends and family
I’ll admit that I’m tempted to scroll through my Instagram feed during a family dinner. However, when our attention is split, it doesn’t allow us to fully enjoy living in the moment. Cherish the time you have with your friends and family. At the end of the day, your loved ones are what is important, not how many social media followers you have.

3. Less Stress 
One time at work our internet connection went out and we couldn’t get any work done for the whole day. It made me realize how dependent we are on computers and technology. Many of us are spending a majority of our work day on a computer and the rest of our night on our phones. When your not giving your mind some time to rest, this can easily lead to stress.

4. Give your eyes a break
Most of us spend a majority of the day staring at a computer screen. I know I always have trouble taking a break when I’m working on something or want to binge watch a TV show. However, it’s important to walk away from our screens every now and then to keep our eyes healthy. Every 20 mins try to look away from your screen and stare at a distant object to reduce fatigue.

5. You won’t compare yourself to others
When you are focusing on what every one else is doing on social media, you can easily fall victim to comparison. It’s easy to feel like your life is boring and isn’t as interesting as everyone else.  It’s important to unplug so that we can fully live our lives and appreciate all the wonderful things we have.

Do you guys ever have a hard time unplugging? What are some of the things you do? 

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How to Be Resilient

What do we really need in life? Good friends, family, the right motivation, the right values? What is it really? Lots of people tell us that when hard time comes we should just stick to our family and friends. They would tell us that the right people will give us more confidence and motivation to walk through life.

There are also times when people would tell us that even though we have our friend and family by our side we should still count on our self for motivation. They would tell us that we are just like a glass of water. Whenever our motivation or confidence is running out, we just have to refill it.

That may be effective in most situations, but there will come a time when this won’t be as effective anymore. We can’t always just refill the glass. What if there is no more water to fill the glass with? Well, we can always buy more water, but I’m afraid that won’t be the case with motivation. Nobody can buy motivation. When we run out of then how can you ever get more of it?

The trick is in being resilient, but what is being resilient anyway?

Being resilient is just like being a rubber band. You can stretch the rubber band as long as you want, but as soon as you let it go it will go back in its place. That is exactly how we should be. No matter how much the world pulls and pushes us around, we should still have the ability to get back on our feet. That is something that is easier said than done. I mean, being resilient is more than just telling yourself that “I am resilient from now on”. No, I am afraid that there is more to it than that. Well, here are some tips on being resilient.

Accept your emotions

We think that we accept our emotions all of the time, but what we really do is we resist them. The thing is when we try to resist our emotions, side effects occur. Accepting our emotions is a bit different. Accepting your emotions means that you accept the fact that you failed at some point. It means that you accept your weak point without feeling bad about yourself.

The thing is the more we try to resist our negative emotions the more difficult it is for us to move forward.

Keep yourself busy

The thing is most people would rather live in the fantasy that they have already reached their goals when they haven’t evens started accomplishing. When they actually started to do something about their goals they would fail. That is not because they are worthless. Rather, it is because they lacked preparation and planning.

Since they spent so much tie fantasising about their success, they can’t accept their failure. As a result, they get all broken inside.

About the guest blogger: Kelly E. Walsh lives in South Carolina. She is a graduate of BS in Computer Science but preferred pursuing her writing career instead. Mostly because she loves telling stories and sharing her knowledge through writing. She is currently writing for essaychip.com on a regular basis and do ghost writing for some companies as well.

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Book Slut Thursday – Week 4

1. Zahir Dehlvi, an accomplished poet and young official in the court of Bahadur Shah Zafar, lived through the cataclysmic 1857 Revolt that changed the course of history, marking the end of Mughal dominion and the in statement of the British Raj. Dehlvi s memoir, written on his deathbed, chronicles the fading glory of the Mughal court and most importantly, pivots on the violent siege of Shahjahanabad. Translated into English for the first time, Dehlvi s memoir is intensely vivid and moving. An immensely significant historical record of the Revolt as it unfolded, Dastan-e-Ghadar is also a compelling personal account that conjures the dramatically changing world Dehlvi lived in.

2. #1 New York Times bestseller Milk and Honey is a collection of poetry and prose about survival. About the experience of violence, abuse, love, loss, and femininity. The book is divided into four chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose. Deals with a different pain. Heals a different heartache. Milk and Honey takes readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness everywhere if you are just willing to look.

3. Brought together in this volume are two of the most moving novels by one of India s greatest women writers The Skeleton and The Man. The Skeleton, translated from Punjabi into English by Khushwant Singh, is memorable for its lyrical style and depth in her writing. Amrita Pritam portrays the most inmost being of the novel s complex characters. The Man is a compelling account of a young man born under strange circumstances and abandoned at the altar of God.

4. Creative Cute Delicious Dot Diary Book is Well made and sturdy, it will handle the abuse you give it while tossing it in your backpack or carrying. The pages don’t get peeled away from the cover, rounded case binding is holding the pages tight.

5. Moustache Friday Bookmark. It says everything.

6. These colorful erasers are perfect for erasing those writing mistakes and keeping on track with the writing skills.

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30 tiny things

30 tiny things every 20 – something needs to realise..

1.  You can’t change your body type.

2.  Your parents only want whats best for you.

3.  Meditation actually works.

4.  People grow apart, thats okay.. because it makes room for new people.

5.  Just because someone tells you they love you, it doesn’t always mean they will mean it forever.

6.  Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.. so always be kind.

7.  You are not as alone as you feel.

8.  Making a mistake is not the end of the world.

9.  Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.

10.  Sex gets better.

11.  Heartbreak is a universal feeling, its not going to kill you.. despite what you might think.

12.  Trust your gut.

13.  Don’t get back with your ex.. Theres a reason it didn’t work the first time.

14.  You have to work at what you really want.. Its not just going to come to you.

15.  You are allowed to feel lost at this age.

16.  And crying certainly doesn’t make you weak.

17.  When you say “I love you” .. Mean it.

18.  Your dream career may not be what you will do for the rest of your life.

19.  Your dream guy/girl may not be who you end up with.

20.  You are still so, so young.

21.  Mental health isn’t something to be ashamed of.. if you need help, seek it.

22.  You will probably have a quarter life crisis at some point.. but I promise you will survive it.

23.  Don’t beat yourself up when you make a mistake, learn from it.

24.  Stop comparing yourself with others.. we are on our own unique journeys.

25.  Know your worth.

26.  Worrying more will do nothing to help you.

27.  Dont compare your start with someone else’s middle.

28.  Don’t take anything for granted, especially the people who love you.

29.  Surround yourself with positive people.

30.  Life is crazy.. have fun with it.

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9 Things I Choose to Ignore

1. Other people’s judgments.

It’s OK to listen to others, but not at the full expense of your own intuition. Throughout your life there will be many times when the world gets real quiet and the only thing left is the beat of your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it, otherwise you’ll never understand what it’s telling you.

2. Old troubles from the past.

You can’t change what has already happened, so choose to look ahead instead of behind you. Don’t stress. Do your best. Forget the rest. Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you. Life is a beautiful circle. You’re strong because you know your weaknesses. You’re wise because you’ve been foolish. You can laugh now because you’ve known sadness.

3. Each day’s little frustrations.

A bad day is just a bad day. It comes and it goes. Choose not to make it anything more. You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul. Go ahead and let go of them. Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of dropping the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down.

4. The necessary pain of hard work and growth.

There are two types of pain in life: pain that hurts you, and pain that changes you. But when you learn from it, they are one and the same. If you want something, you must endure the pain of working for it. It’s that simple. If you’re not where you want to be right now, take the time to visualize yourself in the place you want to be and take the first step in that direction. You may not be able to change your destination in a day, but you can change your direction right now.

5. Insignificant busywork.

In the beginning, you need to say “yes” to a lot of things to discover and establish your goals. Later on, you need to say “no” to a lot of things and concentrate on your goals. Stop over-committing and trying to do too much at once. Start saying “no” more often. If you never say “no,” you will take on too much and all you will achieve is stress and frustration.

6. Impatient thoughts.

Patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. It’s the willingness to stay focused, confidently staking one small step at a time, knowing that the way you move a mountain is by moving one stone at a time. Every stone you move, no matter how small, is progress.

7. The things that can’t be controlled.

Never force anything. Do your best, then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Don’t hold yourself down with things you can’t control. Stop talking about the problem and start thinking about the solution. Forget what could go wrong for a sec and think of what is already right.

8. Unfounded fears.

Life is about overcoming fear and taking risks. If you don’t take risks, you won’t know what you’re capable of. If you don’t risk anything, you risk everything. Truth be told, nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to expand your comfort zone so you can experience things and understand more… so that you may fear less in the long run.

9. The mind’s endless stream of doubts.

Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to succeed. Believe that your relationships are worth the effort. Believe that people make mistakes on their way to greatness. Believe that people can be foolish and intelligent, selfish and generous, and stressed and happy all at once. Believe that very few people hurt others on purpose. Believe that there are many roads to what’s right. Believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe that the answers are out there waiting. Believe that life will surprise you again and again. Believe that the journey is the destination. Believe that it’s all worth your while.

Which of the points above have you struggled with? What else do we all need to ignore more often? Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts with me.

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Things I’m Great At

Everyone needs to indulge in a bit of self-love. It’s not selfish or narcissistic, it’s the foundation of a happy life, and the foundation of happy relationships with others. So, in the name of self love and self appreciation, I was inspired by myself to write about things that I am great at.

Now, I’m ready to blow my own trumpet – are you?

I’m great at … Blogging.
Sure, there are people out there with swisher blogs than mine, with better photography, and with zillions more followers. BUT I am proud of my blog. I consistently produce content which I enjoy creating and which I receive lots of positive feedback on. I’m always striving to improve in order to make my next post better than my last. Overall, I hope that I’m a good blogger and I really take pride in what I do.
I’m great at … Being Kind.
I’d like to think that I’m a pretty kind person. I genuinely try to make my friends feel loved and appreciated, whether it’s just through listening, or through extra special gifts or surprises on their birthday. I try to be attentive, supportive, and not to ask for anything in return. I think that one of the best and easiest ways to be kind is just to be generous with your time, and I try to let my friends know that I’m there for them when they need me.
I’m great at … Organisation.
I am really good at getting work done. My blog posts are usually planned at least 30-45 days t in advance, and every single thing that I wrote was handed in early (no joke, I’m crazy). Being organised and knowing that everything is taken care of makes me feel really productive and eases any anxieties, so I’m really glad that I’m good at this.
I’m great at … Being Smart.
Intelligence is something you often feel like you have to hide while you’re at school/sixth form because *it’s not cool to be clever*, but I am now really proud to have my smarts. Being able to figure something out and write that you’re good in it is of such a rewarding feeling!
What are you great at? Spread some self-love in the comments and tell me about your best qualities!

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The story behind Cantilevered Tales – Why Jayant Kripalani wrote this book?

Why did I start writing this set of short stories that became one long story? I don’t really know. I was on way my back from somewhere by train and at Howrah Station a group of taxi drivers tried to extort a higher fare from me.  This was before the time of pre paid taxi booths.  Rather than shell out five times the fare I thought I’d take a bus. It was peak hour in the morning and though I did get a seat since the bus started from there, I hadn’t calculated the length of time I’d be sitting in the bus on the bridge. Forty five minutes of inching along later I heard a voice behind me say, “AitakiHaora Bridge na Laora Bridge?”

I knew exactly what he meant.

I knew then that I had the beginning of a story.

“Where are you getting off?” I turned around and asked.

“High Court,” he replied.

By now we had reached the East end of the bridge. It still looked like we’d be on the bus for another 45 minutes.

“Walk?” I asked him.

“Let’s,” he said.

And that as they say was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

His name was Khokon. He lived in Santragachhi. And because of that immortal first line, I called the protagonist of my story Khokon. In the book though, the line belongs to his colleague Ashutosh.

Some time later, I overheard a group of people talking about saving a water body from some unscrupulous builder.ArunLal the cricket player might have been a part of the group but I’m not sure.  I started keeping tabs on them. Not because I was interested in saving the environment or even that small little lake.

I am not a crusader.

I hate getting involved with issues.

But if you live in Calcutta, even for a short while, trust me, you’ll get involved.

More power to the builder I thought after I first saw the lake if you can call brackish acres of sludge a lake.

What did interest me were the disparate lot of people, and some desperate ones among them, who were determined they were going to save a stagnant water body from becoming an office complex.Frankly in my opinion that lake had outlived its usefulness to be anything at all.

I didn’t give a damn what happened to the lake.

But over a period of time I did start worrying about the people. And of course fell hopelessly in love with them. Their wellbeing and their good health became a matter of great concern to me especially since I saw the array of ‘villains’ lined up against them.

So rather than concentrate on Builder v Helpless Citizen – enough stories had been written about them, I concentrated on their stories and their histories.

This is their story or should I say these are their stories.  Some of the people are real; some of the people who come to their assistance are thinly disguised caricatures of people I admire; some are just people I met on buses and trams in my journeys across the bridge who wormed their way into the book.

And that is how this book got wrote.

Book Blurb

CANTILEVERED TALES IS A STORY ABOUT PEOPLE, THEIR QUIRKS AND WHY THEY BECOME WHO THEY BECOME. AND LOTS OF LAUGHTER!

I overheard a group of people talking about saving a water body from some unscrupulous builder and started keeping tabs on them. Not because I was interested in saving the environment or even that small little lake. What did interest me were the disparate lot of people, and some desperate ones among them, who were determined that they were going to save a stagnant water body, which in my opinion had outlived its usefulness as anything at all, from becoming an office complex.

This is NOT a Builder v Helpless citizen epic. In fact that is the least important part of the book. This is about a group of inept people who you want to reach out and protect but you discover are more than capable of taking care of not just themselves, but of you too.

Author Bio

Jayant Kripalani is an Indian film, television and stage actor, writer and director. Known for his work in TV series like Khandaan, Mr Ya Mrs and Ji Mantriji, he graduated from Jadavpur University with a degree in English Literature. He has played character roles in movies like Heat and Dust, RockfordJaane Tu. . .Ya Jaane Na, 3 Idiots and, most recently, Hawaizaade and The Hunger. He has directed and produced a number of films and is actively involved with theatre. He wrote the screenplay for Shyam Benegal’s film Well Done Abba. He is the author of the heartwarming and nostalgic New Market Tales, set in the historic New Market area of Kolkata in the 1960s and 1970s. His recent foray into writing performance poetry has brought him acclaim in poetic circles around the country. When he is not in Calcutta, he is either fishing in Himachal, pfaffing in Bombay or being a beach bum in Goa.

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