This Time Next Year

Be still blogging
I’d love to still keep up my blogging on a regular basis as I’m really enjoying it, and hopefully I will have done some exciting things to blog about! And attend more blogger meet up, that’d be fab.

Be further on in my books…
I started writing books.  I mean, I used to write all the time but I haven’t properly written in years, I’d love to see if I can actually keep this up.
I want to have more confidence and care less about what other people think about me.
I think I can achieve this by continuing blogging, thinking about the people around me whose opinions I care about and starting to accept myself for who I am. When I can accomplish that I think I would care less about what other people think about me.
I may be married or Should I say I want to get married
Marriage is one of the most memorable day of everyone’s life. I want to be blessed by god and see myself being married by Next year same time. Wish me luck

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Rafflesia-Banished-Princess

Blurb: The curtains draw up. Lights are dimmed. The musical is about to begin. As the beautiful princess descends on stage, the mythical creatures from her kingdom come alive. Flickers of brilliant colours blaze across as mesmerizing music pulsates from one corner of the theatre to the other. A fairy tale is about to unfold…As young children, we often come across things that stay in our hearts forever. For Appu, it is a fairy tale about a beautiful princess. He lives with her in a world filled with the magical creatures from her kingdom until the real world beckons. A reluctant Appu steps into it as a striking young man and struggles to find his place. What follows is an evocative tale of love and loss, friendship and betrayal, as the story travels through the snow-peaked mountains of Arunachal to the golden deserts of Jaisalmer, the tulip gardens of Holland to the lush greens of Kerala. Does Appu find what he had set out for? The answer lies in Rafflesia — The Banished Princess because in her story, lay his!”

About the author: A B-School graduate, Gautam is a business analyst by profession. Considers the laptop as among his best friends and nurses a secret desire to turn an entrepreneur someday.

Review:  Some stories are so interesting and some on the other hand are boring to death. They sound as if they are preaching philosophies and verses from the texts, despite having a movie type writing approach Rafflesia – The Banished Princess by author Gautam did not appeal to my reading style. The main protagonist of the novel is Appu who has a complete psychic outlook in life. The cover was not much interesting or the blurb but as I had to write this review, I forced myself to read it to complete. It is all about Appu whose is an introvert by his life situations. His friend Rahul is opposite to him who enjoys his life to the fullest. The story is about Appu who is on the way to divorce his wife Jharna. The mental torture and disturbances he goes through is what the rest of the story talks about including giving us the reason why his wife Jharna separated from him within 2 days of the wedding. The book has many characters apart from Appu, Jharna and Rahul, such as Sunaina– the lawyer, Trina – Appu’s mother, Aabir – Appu’s father, Sujata – the linking character to the metaphor and few here and there situated in India and Holland and also Bunty. The plot and theme of the story is so known that there is no scope for suspense or chilling element, this is what made this book a disappointment for me. I did not find anything wonderful in the story though sometimes the writing went complicated. The author stretched the story to a long way making it really bore reading for me as sometimes it turned very slow adding more hours to read it.  If you are someone who wants to test their reading patience, I highly recommend you to pick the book – The Banished Princess. I tested my patience, though not happy with the content/story writing, I passed out successfully reading the length bore book. If this book doesn’t get into your genre, you can skip it.

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Why you need to unplug?

It’s been a pretty quiet week on the blog. Honestly, I’ve been feeling drained mentally, physically, and creatively. You know that feeling when nothing brings you joy anymore, even the things you love, and you can’t seem to shake off that feeling of complete exhaustion. It sucks, but we all go through it.

If you think about it, we spend most of our day being glued to our phones and computers. Being connected to the world 24/7 can really take a toll on our well being. In the same way that we need a vacation away from our jobs, it’s equally as important to take a vacation away from our computers and phones. Here’s a few reasons why you need to unplug:

1. It allows you to have some “me time”
I can’t stress the importance of having a little me time. Having some time alone allows you to clear your mind and recharge. Take some time to take care of yourself. This can be taking a nap, working out, or doing one of your hobbies.

2. It allows you to spend more time with friends and family
I’ll admit that I’m tempted to scroll through my Instagram feed during a family dinner. However, when our attention is split, it doesn’t allow us to fully enjoy living in the moment. Cherish the time you have with your friends and family. At the end of the day, your loved ones are what is important, not how many social media followers you have.

3. Less Stress 
One time at work our internet connection went out and we couldn’t get any work done for the whole day. It made me realize how dependent we are on computers and technology. Many of us are spending a majority of our work day on a computer and the rest of our night on our phones. When your not giving your mind some time to rest, this can easily lead to stress.

4. Give your eyes a break
Most of us spend a majority of the day staring at a computer screen. I know I always have trouble taking a break when I’m working on something or want to binge watch a TV show. However, it’s important to walk away from our screens every now and then to keep our eyes healthy. Every 20 mins try to look away from your screen and stare at a distant object to reduce fatigue.

5. You won’t compare yourself to others
When you are focusing on what every one else is doing on social media, you can easily fall victim to comparison. It’s easy to feel like your life is boring and isn’t as interesting as everyone else.  It’s important to unplug so that we can fully live our lives and appreciate all the wonderful things we have.

Do you guys ever have a hard time unplugging? What are some of the things you do? 

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Sunday Featured Blogger #4

With the start of this month May, I am starting a new, weekly series, on my blog.  In it I am featuring 20 bloggers for 20 Sundays starting from today till September 2017. 

The Blogger to be featured today is Vasantha Vivek

Can you tell me a little about yourself and your blog – mentioning something known and unknown to the readers?

I am Vasantha Vivek. I am a happy woman, daughter, sister, wife, mother, teacher, friend, mentor, seeker, lover. I am a teacher by profession. I was a professor at an Engineering College for nearly 15 years. Teaching is my passion. Reading is my love. Cooking is my heart. I enjoy reading and writing very much. Now I’m blogging about relationship, love, family, parenting and social issues at My Sweet Nothings.  I feel proud and happy to feature many of my fellow mommy bloggers in “This Mom’s Life” – guest post series. Also I write articles for Indian Moms Connect, Monsoon Breeze, Parentous, Women’s Web, mycity4kids and World Of Moms. Also I have coauthored a book titled “100 Moms One Journey” and an e-magazine titled “Raising World children”.

Tell me about some of the people you’ve met while working on your blog or through blogging communities?

I love to meet people both at real and virtual. I feel bloggers’ meet is fantastic. I was blessed to meet one of my blogger friends for the first time during February of this year. I would cherish this first blogger meet for my lifetime. I was really thrilled and excited to meet Kala of relax-N-rave. She made our day with her pleasant smile, unconditional love and lot of affection. I would add meeting of two friends paved the path for the friendship of two families.

What do you do when you aren’t working on your blog? You can tell me about your usual day routine.

I will be reading books, magazines or blogs. Also I may cook something special for my family. I will be doing my yoga and meditation practices. Also I will be happy on doing some random acts of kindness.

Everyone has a favourite/least favourite post. Tell me about your best and worst post and why?

Always I would prefer my “This Mom’s Life” – guest post series as my best post. Since I started this series to feature my mommy blogger friends even before I came to know the significance and importance of guest posts. By this series, I have featured nearly 26 mom bloggers on my blog. Feeling proud about that. And I never consider any of my posts as a worst post. Since they are born out of my feelings as words. I treat every post of mine as my child. So naturally no mom would consider their kids as worst.

Name some of the bloggers – at least 3 of your favourites, whom you look up to and why?

Anamika of thebespectacledmother for she’s my other part. We do have many resemblances both on life and writing. She’s my best firend on this blogosphere and I love to meet her in person very soon. Shailaja of Diary Of Doting Mom. Her writings are powerful and abundant of life values. Yet she writes very friendly and simple. She’s my inspiration on blogging. Romila of Novemberschild. We both are November’s children. I love her for her friendliness and boldness. Her blog speaks her heart. She’s very helping for newbie bloggers.

Tell me about your proudest achievement(s)? (Related to Blogging)

 I just started my blog as a hobby during 2014. Now my blog has a wider reach of 480 followers after getting self hosted during last November. I feel proud on posting nearly 500 posts so far. I aspire to be a published author this year.

If someone was interested in blogging, what would be a few things you would suggest?

Write your heart out. Keep quality of your posts at higher priority than the quantity of posts. Also be firm in writing your unique content. Be patient. Happily connect with more people. Read many blogs.

I am sure you know me as a blogger or your friend on social media or may be even as a person in real so how would you rate my writings and tell me your honest opinion on me – this would serve as a testimonial (A new section on my blog where I would put these good words…or maybe the bad ones too)

Romila, really feeling blessed to find you on this blogosphere. You are my best friend to be counted for all my needs. I adore your writings. You inspire every blogger through your posts. Keep this spirit and courage always. You are an awesome blogger with participation on A to Z challenge for two consecutive years. I enjoyed your micro poems and felt proud on reviewing your second e=book on micro poems. Keep growing and Keep spreading love.

Vasantha Vivek–  Twitter | Blog | Facebook | Instagram

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How to Be Resilient

What do we really need in life? Good friends, family, the right motivation, the right values? What is it really? Lots of people tell us that when hard time comes we should just stick to our family and friends. They would tell us that the right people will give us more confidence and motivation to walk through life.

There are also times when people would tell us that even though we have our friend and family by our side we should still count on our self for motivation. They would tell us that we are just like a glass of water. Whenever our motivation or confidence is running out, we just have to refill it.

That may be effective in most situations, but there will come a time when this won’t be as effective anymore. We can’t always just refill the glass. What if there is no more water to fill the glass with? Well, we can always buy more water, but I’m afraid that won’t be the case with motivation. Nobody can buy motivation. When we run out of then how can you ever get more of it?

The trick is in being resilient, but what is being resilient anyway?

Being resilient is just like being a rubber band. You can stretch the rubber band as long as you want, but as soon as you let it go it will go back in its place. That is exactly how we should be. No matter how much the world pulls and pushes us around, we should still have the ability to get back on our feet. That is something that is easier said than done. I mean, being resilient is more than just telling yourself that “I am resilient from now on”. No, I am afraid that there is more to it than that. Well, here are some tips on being resilient.

Accept your emotions

We think that we accept our emotions all of the time, but what we really do is we resist them. The thing is when we try to resist our emotions, side effects occur. Accepting our emotions is a bit different. Accepting your emotions means that you accept the fact that you failed at some point. It means that you accept your weak point without feeling bad about yourself.

The thing is the more we try to resist our negative emotions the more difficult it is for us to move forward.

Keep yourself busy

The thing is most people would rather live in the fantasy that they have already reached their goals when they haven’t evens started accomplishing. When they actually started to do something about their goals they would fail. That is not because they are worthless. Rather, it is because they lacked preparation and planning.

Since they spent so much tie fantasising about their success, they can’t accept their failure. As a result, they get all broken inside.

About the guest blogger: Kelly E. Walsh lives in South Carolina. She is a graduate of BS in Computer Science but preferred pursuing her writing career instead. Mostly because she loves telling stories and sharing her knowledge through writing. She is currently writing for essaychip.com on a regular basis and do ghost writing for some companies as well.

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Book Slut Thursday – Week 4

1. Zahir Dehlvi, an accomplished poet and young official in the court of Bahadur Shah Zafar, lived through the cataclysmic 1857 Revolt that changed the course of history, marking the end of Mughal dominion and the in statement of the British Raj. Dehlvi s memoir, written on his deathbed, chronicles the fading glory of the Mughal court and most importantly, pivots on the violent siege of Shahjahanabad. Translated into English for the first time, Dehlvi s memoir is intensely vivid and moving. An immensely significant historical record of the Revolt as it unfolded, Dastan-e-Ghadar is also a compelling personal account that conjures the dramatically changing world Dehlvi lived in.

2. #1 New York Times bestseller Milk and Honey is a collection of poetry and prose about survival. About the experience of violence, abuse, love, loss, and femininity. The book is divided into four chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose. Deals with a different pain. Heals a different heartache. Milk and Honey takes readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness everywhere if you are just willing to look.

3. Brought together in this volume are two of the most moving novels by one of India s greatest women writers The Skeleton and The Man. The Skeleton, translated from Punjabi into English by Khushwant Singh, is memorable for its lyrical style and depth in her writing. Amrita Pritam portrays the most inmost being of the novel s complex characters. The Man is a compelling account of a young man born under strange circumstances and abandoned at the altar of God.

4. Creative Cute Delicious Dot Diary Book is Well made and sturdy, it will handle the abuse you give it while tossing it in your backpack or carrying. The pages don’t get peeled away from the cover, rounded case binding is holding the pages tight.

5. Moustache Friday Bookmark. It says everything.

6. These colorful erasers are perfect for erasing those writing mistakes and keeping on track with the writing skills.

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30 tiny things

30 tiny things every 20 – something needs to realise..

1.  You can’t change your body type.

2.  Your parents only want whats best for you.

3.  Meditation actually works.

4.  People grow apart, thats okay.. because it makes room for new people.

5.  Just because someone tells you they love you, it doesn’t always mean they will mean it forever.

6.  Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.. so always be kind.

7.  You are not as alone as you feel.

8.  Making a mistake is not the end of the world.

9.  Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.

10.  Sex gets better.

11.  Heartbreak is a universal feeling, its not going to kill you.. despite what you might think.

12.  Trust your gut.

13.  Don’t get back with your ex.. Theres a reason it didn’t work the first time.

14.  You have to work at what you really want.. Its not just going to come to you.

15.  You are allowed to feel lost at this age.

16.  And crying certainly doesn’t make you weak.

17.  When you say “I love you” .. Mean it.

18.  Your dream career may not be what you will do for the rest of your life.

19.  Your dream guy/girl may not be who you end up with.

20.  You are still so, so young.

21.  Mental health isn’t something to be ashamed of.. if you need help, seek it.

22.  You will probably have a quarter life crisis at some point.. but I promise you will survive it.

23.  Don’t beat yourself up when you make a mistake, learn from it.

24.  Stop comparing yourself with others.. we are on our own unique journeys.

25.  Know your worth.

26.  Worrying more will do nothing to help you.

27.  Dont compare your start with someone else’s middle.

28.  Don’t take anything for granted, especially the people who love you.

29.  Surround yourself with positive people.

30.  Life is crazy.. have fun with it.

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9 Things I Choose to Ignore

1. Other people’s judgments.

It’s OK to listen to others, but not at the full expense of your own intuition. Throughout your life there will be many times when the world gets real quiet and the only thing left is the beat of your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it, otherwise you’ll never understand what it’s telling you.

2. Old troubles from the past.

You can’t change what has already happened, so choose to look ahead instead of behind you. Don’t stress. Do your best. Forget the rest. Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you. Life is a beautiful circle. You’re strong because you know your weaknesses. You’re wise because you’ve been foolish. You can laugh now because you’ve known sadness.

3. Each day’s little frustrations.

A bad day is just a bad day. It comes and it goes. Choose not to make it anything more. You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul. Go ahead and let go of them. Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of dropping the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down.

4. The necessary pain of hard work and growth.

There are two types of pain in life: pain that hurts you, and pain that changes you. But when you learn from it, they are one and the same. If you want something, you must endure the pain of working for it. It’s that simple. If you’re not where you want to be right now, take the time to visualize yourself in the place you want to be and take the first step in that direction. You may not be able to change your destination in a day, but you can change your direction right now.

5. Insignificant busywork.

In the beginning, you need to say “yes” to a lot of things to discover and establish your goals. Later on, you need to say “no” to a lot of things and concentrate on your goals. Stop over-committing and trying to do too much at once. Start saying “no” more often. If you never say “no,” you will take on too much and all you will achieve is stress and frustration.

6. Impatient thoughts.

Patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. It’s the willingness to stay focused, confidently staking one small step at a time, knowing that the way you move a mountain is by moving one stone at a time. Every stone you move, no matter how small, is progress.

7. The things that can’t be controlled.

Never force anything. Do your best, then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Don’t hold yourself down with things you can’t control. Stop talking about the problem and start thinking about the solution. Forget what could go wrong for a sec and think of what is already right.

8. Unfounded fears.

Life is about overcoming fear and taking risks. If you don’t take risks, you won’t know what you’re capable of. If you don’t risk anything, you risk everything. Truth be told, nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to expand your comfort zone so you can experience things and understand more… so that you may fear less in the long run.

9. The mind’s endless stream of doubts.

Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to succeed. Believe that your relationships are worth the effort. Believe that people make mistakes on their way to greatness. Believe that people can be foolish and intelligent, selfish and generous, and stressed and happy all at once. Believe that very few people hurt others on purpose. Believe that there are many roads to what’s right. Believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe that the answers are out there waiting. Believe that life will surprise you again and again. Believe that the journey is the destination. Believe that it’s all worth your while.

Which of the points above have you struggled with? What else do we all need to ignore more often? Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts with me.

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Things I’m Great At

Everyone needs to indulge in a bit of self-love. It’s not selfish or narcissistic, it’s the foundation of a happy life, and the foundation of happy relationships with others. So, in the name of self love and self appreciation, I was inspired by myself to write about things that I am great at.

Now, I’m ready to blow my own trumpet – are you?

I’m great at … Blogging.
Sure, there are people out there with swisher blogs than mine, with better photography, and with zillions more followers. BUT I am proud of my blog. I consistently produce content which I enjoy creating and which I receive lots of positive feedback on. I’m always striving to improve in order to make my next post better than my last. Overall, I hope that I’m a good blogger and I really take pride in what I do.
I’m great at … Being Kind.
I’d like to think that I’m a pretty kind person. I genuinely try to make my friends feel loved and appreciated, whether it’s just through listening, or through extra special gifts or surprises on their birthday. I try to be attentive, supportive, and not to ask for anything in return. I think that one of the best and easiest ways to be kind is just to be generous with your time, and I try to let my friends know that I’m there for them when they need me.
I’m great at … Organisation.
I am really good at getting work done. My blog posts are usually planned at least 30-45 days t in advance, and every single thing that I wrote was handed in early (no joke, I’m crazy). Being organised and knowing that everything is taken care of makes me feel really productive and eases any anxieties, so I’m really glad that I’m good at this.
I’m great at … Being Smart.
Intelligence is something you often feel like you have to hide while you’re at school/sixth form because *it’s not cool to be clever*, but I am now really proud to have my smarts. Being able to figure something out and write that you’re good in it is of such a rewarding feeling!
What are you great at? Spread some self-love in the comments and tell me about your best qualities!

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Sunday Featured Blogger #3

With the start of this month May, I am starting a new, weekly series, on my blog.  In it I am featuring 20 bloggers for 20 Sundays starting from today till September 2017. 

The Blogger to be featured today is Dipika Singh

Can you tell me a little about yourself and your blog – mentioning something known and unknown to the readers? 

I am a simple person with big dreams, the idea is to make sure people know you in your niche’, believer of Karma. My BLOG is exact representation of me – Open, Bold, never hold back & Loyal. My commitment to ‘gleefulblogger’, is to keep it unadulterated & original.

Tell me about some of the people you’ve met while working on your blog or through blogging communities?

I consider myself fortunate to get connected with some of the best in blogging world. I participate in weekly Blog Hops and glad to be associated with such trails like – #mondaymommymoments by Amrita Basu & Deepa Gandhi. #ThankfulThursdays by Mayuri, Tina Basu, Deepa & Amrita. Twitter Chats by Synergy #SY5Chat. Ruchi Verma from WigglingPen helped me during my initial learning days. Romila’s NovermberChild gave me my very first Guest Post, Vasantha Vivek featured me on her ‘This Mom’s Life’ chapter. Its sheer love.

What do you do when you aren’t working on your blog? You can tell me about your usual day routine.

Life gets little twisted with a little person at home, I can hardly find time for myself when she’s around. My day revolves around her demands and her studies but when she’s off to school it’s a wild run for me. I do my stuff, watch my movies on Romedy Now or hang out with bestie in local café’s. I love cooking for our family of 3 – simple, sober and nutritious food. During academic sessions, I prepare for my lectures to be delivered at Colleges.

Everyone has a favourite/least favourite post. Tell me about your best and worst post and why?

I love reading, when the content is good one feel attached to it. For me writing should be natural – without preservatives. I write with lot of research & clear mind, hence love all my posts (apart from the ones done to get paid) Like any creative person I hate plagiarism, stealing ideas is a NO GO for me.

Name some of the bloggers – at least 3 of your favourites, whom you look up to and why?

I love reading @vikramwkarve – his posts are magical, fictional short stories from his wealthy experience of over 3 decades. @misra_amrita she’s a Doctor by profession & amazing blogger by passion – her posts are quite informative and I am always amazed how she makes sure to write, publicize, collaborate on the daily basis. @Mayuri6 from srimiri.in her writing portfolio touches my strings. I look upto her feed and thoroughly enjoyed her A-Z Blogchatter campaign. These are just few names, I love reading from many bloggers who are dedicated to their indigenous approach and write unadulterated, like – Deepa Gandhi from @kreativemommy, Smita Pal from @theavgmom,  MinakshiBajpai from @themommytimeline….

Tell me about your proudest achievement(s)? (Related to Blogging)

Achievement small or big always bring pride, my very first blog post chose as runner-up in blog contest, got me hooked to writing more. I was chosen as Consistent Writer by #MMM for the month of Feb (amrita & deepa) Above all the constant appreciation from fellow blogger keep my spirits high.

If someone was interested in blogging, what would be a few things you would suggest?

Decide your area of interest first, don’t be ‘jack of all trades’, bring originality, good content to writing – Don’t start BLOGGING as compensatory venture.

I am sure you know me as a blogger or your friend on social media or may be even as a person in real so how would you rate my writings and tell me your honest opinion on me – this would serve as a testimonial (A new section on my blog where I would put these good words…or maybe the bad ones too)

You for me are a Bold, Smart & On your face person. I got connected to you via twitter, you read my early posts and straightaway told me – ‘do a guest post for me’. I like your writings (tough sometimes have to fetch dictionary to get some words) and love your dedication. Your ever ‘happy to help’ approach is boon for new bloggers. I loved surfing through November’s Child – it’s wealthy resource. 

Dipika Singh–  Twitter | Blog | Facebook | Instagram

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