No one teaches us this concept of loving ourselves first or being happy and content with ourselves the way we are. We are always told to run behind numbers or things that make us feel superior to the other.
Since childhood itself, we are told that bringing good percentage or good grades should be our priority and that achieving it will bring you success and that connects to happiness. Then we grow and we run behind jobs that will pay us enough to buy luxuries in life and if you are not making enough you are a loser. And you feel unhappy by comparing your life to the ones who are enjoying at a foreign destination or having a better lifestyle than you.
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”-Greg Anderson
Society and social media also play along with a lot of stereotyping. If you don’t have a fair skin, if you are not skinny or chubby, or obese, or anything in between, if your height is too long or too short, or when you go through a heart-break, you feel malaise and you feel lost. You feel that everyone around is happy but life is not being fair to you.
We realize it too late in our life or sometimes we don’t even realize that happiness does not lie in a person or in the materialistic things, happiness is not in the destination it’s a state of mind. Happiness is enjoying each moment in life be it good or bad. When you have a dream, you know you will have to work hard. But you don’t feel unhappy to work harder because that is what is making you happy as you are working for something you desire, something you truly want to achieve.
It is not that you will always be happy or the people you see on social media enjoying every bit and posting pictures are actually happy. Every one of us on this earth is going through some problems or turmoil in our life and even within ourselves. One more problem we have is, leave everything in future. Like sometimes we say, one day I will have a good bank balance and then I will be happy. What if today is your last day and tomorrow you not going to see the sunrise? Tomorrow when I get a job, I will approach that girl whom I love since past 2 years but don’t have the courage to go as she can reject me on the financial basis. What if she also has feelings for you and what she expects is your love and you to respect her. What if she is ready to support you in every ups and downs isn’t that what actually makes a relationship/love strong?
Why do we expect or assume that our future will be happy? Why can’t we just live in the moment and actually be happy today, forget today, why can’t we be happy now? We all must learn to live our life like today is the last day, like this moment is never coming back. So what we all are dealing with some issues in life, we all must try to see at the positive side. Today even the rich are unhappy and even the poor are unhappy because one may have money and luxury but might not have peace or love of the people around, while the latter is unhappy because of the shortage of basic necessity in life but do have the love and support of closed ones.
All we need to learn and even make the future generation or the little ones around us realize that, find happiness within us and not around us. To be content and happy with whatever we have and if we desire something goes and achieve it, but don’t forget to live in the journey of life. Life is messy and beautiful but we are the ones who make it more messier. Don’t do it, just breath and live in the moment.
“Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it’s too late. The time for happiness is today not tomorrow.” ~ Paul H Dunn
About the Guest writer: Nazish Kondkari born and brought up in Mumbai is a writer by heart and dreamer by vision. She aspires to be full-time writer and try to pen her thoughts on writing stories and poems. She is also a blogger. Nazish is a voracious reader and finds solace only in books and stories. Nazish’s various short stories and articles have been published in different e-magazines, social media blogs and also, her 3 short stories have been published in 3 different anthology books. You can read her blogs on hijabiwritersite.wordpress.com. Nazish also pens down her messy thoughts on her instagram page @naz_instablogger
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