5 Things I Tell Myself to Ace My Peace of Mind

I am a firm believer of every individual being the architect of their own destiny. ‘I am, what I choose to be’, or ‘I do what I do’ are the life philosophies that I live by. To react to actions of others’ is a personal choice. I may choose to indulge in mud-slinging or I may choose to rise above petty arguments and come out more dignified. But how do I check my reactions in the heat of a situation? And even if I manage to keep my mouth in check, how do I detach my mind from getting affected. Here I share five things I tell myself when I know I have a choice to make.

Stay Calm or Keep Kaam se Kaam

We have all come across this emoji and probably had a hearty laugh over it. But ever stopped to wonder how effective a barrier this adage is when you need to check your reactions. Next time, when you feel the voice in your head, jumping to come out and express displeasure over something that is beyond your control, show it your palm face and tell it to deal with the situation without creating any drama.

Love is a part of life, not heart of life

As much as we may wish to associate all matters love with the heart, the crux of the matter is that nothing is worth compromising this beautiful life you have. By love, I do not mean only the romantic love. Love includes every person/relationship that you render importance to. Trust me, no person is worth your tears. Gather the shreds of your broken heart and set them in a centrifugal motion. As they revolve, the pieces will all attach themselves to each other and give birth to a new transformed heart. Life doesn’t stop!

I am a Ripe Mango

I got this one from my Pranic Healing Course for understanding the meaning of soul. They actually call it the ‘Kachchaa Aam’ philosophy. As per this philosophy, whenever you feel that you are being pushed beyond the edge due to another person’s behavior and you think that you are on the right, do not give in to resentment. Instead, empathize with the person for being a less evolved soul. An even better course of action would be, bless her so that she learns her lessons asap. And then practice the above two pointers.

I am my Favorite

The key to happiness is self-love. This is one trait that can help you overcome the biggest challenges in your relationships. If you suffer from any kind complex or self-doubt, you are likely to give rise to a lot of self – resentment that will eventually result you being jealous of those around you. I do not need to elaborate on how jealousy can spoil the joy of whatever you have in your life. So everytime you feel the clouds of self-doubt hover above you, tell the demon to shut up and tell thyself how much you love thee.

I am a BadeDilWaali

Someone having a big heart, not only signifies her being benevolent or giving, it also shows that the person is inviting of positive energy in her aura. A big heart is like a karma bank. You keep accumulating and saving your good karma by having a generous heart and by avoiding needless tightfistedness. I believe that sooner than later it will pay-off. If nothing else, it will strengthen the perseverance of mind, body and soul. This will make you strong enough to face any challenge in life.

Put these five barriers in the way of your anger and resentment, and you will find yourself in a much better situation to bring the calm snowy pleasant looking clouds back to the sky. And one could definitely get used to the feeling of happiness and wellness that comes accrued while you shed of your baggage.

About the Guest writer: Anupriya is an engineer, turned HR professional turned stay-at-home-mother turned work-from home mother. In a span of last 13 years, she has stayed in atleast 5 different cities and thus traversed the length and breadth of the country. Apart from being passionate about her profession in a Human Resources Management, she is an ardent reader and a lover of leisure cooking. As she nurtures her three kids all under 5 ( 2 boys and a blog) she picks on thoughts that help her become better at every aspect of her life and jot them down in her blog www.mommytincture.com . This blog is a legacy sibling she wishes to leave for her sons.

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Experience of writing a book on Romance by Inderpreet Uppal

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The experience of writing a romance has been very exciting. I have always been a fan of romance. I find everything in romance books, more so with the various sub-genres of romance. Romantic thrillers, mysteries, paranormal and legal romance, the choices are manifold. It was the natural choice for me to write on an aspect of love since romance is what I read the most. I did not need to handle romance; it just held my hand and guided me. The experience has been very challenging and satisfying since I this is what I always wished to write. I was able to write or express what the characters feel even though the emotions at times are overwhelming. Romance and love are such an integral part of our lives, even when we are alone we are surrounded by love so it was both easy and difficult to write. Easy, since romance is all around us, whether in movies or books, even on TV and in lives around us. Difficult, because to actually express the deep feelings and strong emotions and not make them extreme or cold. I knew I wanted to write about love. It was as if Diya wanted me to pen her story and highlight what happens when we have no control over our love and life and still need to keep going. It has elements of love and life similar to the highs and lows we face. I was thinking of a story about a garden, a girl and her attachment to it and the story just flowed from there. The main character is a simple yet strong girl who finds herself after a tremendous setback. A kind of inspiration for those who have lost someone special in their life and find the strength to go on.

Diya is about strength, she will motivate the reader to look at the silver lining in the dark clouds. I want my readers to feel positive and hopeful after reading the story and understand that life goes on. Losing someone does not mean the end of everything.

Here is an excerpt for the readers-

Thinking it to be filled with odd knick-knacks leftover from various projects, she was surprised to see it full of pictures. A groan escaped from her unknowingly as did a tear and then another. She closed her eyes as she held on to the pictures but the tears escaped unheeded. Wiping her eyes, she steeled herself for what was to come, a bonanza of images celebrating their relationship, recording the silly, funny and even the angry moments.

Romance is always on my mind and I am working on taking Diya’s story forward. Many of my readers requested to know more about her so ‘Diya’s Desire’ is in the works. When I had written ‘Generously Yours’, I was just writing about the ‘now’. Diya in her present and how is she coping. It was never about what would happen or had passed, however as the story evolved and grew, many readers wanted to know more. I too felt the need to give Diya her ‘present’ and am penning the sequel ‘Diya’s Desire’. More details when I have fleshed it out further J I plan it as a full-length novel. ‘We Women Wonder’ is nonfiction that I have talked about on my social media. It is about us women and the various thoughts, issues, prejudices and assumptions we face from the world and women. It is a book close to my heart as it stems from all that we face being a woman and how we can be better. Another romance is in the works as well as various short reads. Thank you for hosting me, Romila. All the very best to you and for your books.

About the author

Inderpreet writes for her love of writing, edits manuscripts,  and reads endlessly. A sprinkling of fiction, a dash of books, and a bit of opinion add to the eclectic mix that is Eloquent Articulation. She is a Masters in Human Resources Management and an Army brat, she now joins her adorable Army hubby across the country. Books, editing, reviews, freelance writing, posts, and blogging keep her busy whenever she gets a breather from mothering her ‘too tricky to handle son’. She has recently published her first book on Amazon, GENEROUSLY YOURS. 

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