Fingers on you -Week 5 #SuperBloggerAcademy

False accusations and gossip can destroy lives, even if the accused is innocent. If your reputation is under attack ask yourself what you would like to see happen in order to clear your name. Is there anything that anyone can do that could ever make the situation better? Don’t try to address every accusation. If you decide to start defending yourself, that will become your full-time job, if you answer every story, every piece of gossip, every allegation in your life, that’s all you will ever do. You will be completely consumed by this and it will take over your life. Don’t draw attention to yourself defending the rumor. You need to give yourself permission to just live your life. If there are people out there who think something about you that you don’t like, then those won’t be your friends. There will be other people who will like and respect you for who you are, and they will be your friends. Don’t fall into the trap of acting out with non-directional frustration. The stress that comes with being wrongly accused can lead a person to act out with those closest to them, like a spouse or child. Remember that the enemy isn’t your loved one; it’s an outside force.

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  1. I try to tell myself the same thing but feel that I should not let someone spread falsehoods about me or someone I know. When do I stop someone and when do I not? Something I’m trying to find the answer of.

  2. I agree with there is no need to answer every story. People enjoy this stuff. It pisses me off at times but I prefer to answer through my deeds not on words. I like the title fingers on you.

  3. I have stopped justyfying myself. There are loads of people waiting to back bite, do character assasination – staright face to everyone.

  4. Generally the tendency is to defend oneself vociferously when a person is accused falsely. Sometimes when the accusation hurts our deepest inner self then we do need to defend ourselves. But then before launching into an effort to do so we need to look at whether it is worth it? Is it necessary and does it really matter? As you say if we set about defending ourselves for everything we are blamed for we will have our time cut out doing that. If it is not worth it, it is simple better to ignore.

  5. Unless the relation is too precious to lose for me, I don’t care about the gossips. Moreover, ppl who really love me won’t need any clarification. You have written the thoughts perfectly.

  6. We may be a victim of trolling (online or offline) but it is up to us to let it affect us or not. Toxic people might have free time on their hands but we have precious little to address or acknowledge them. Justification, if at all, is only for those who’re close and matter to us.

  7. I like the concept here. If you are a victim of gossip, no matter what you do will just give fodder for the gossip-mongers’ fire. Damn if you do, Damn if you don’t. Just accept who you are and be comfortable with it. After all, if you don’t bet on yourself, who will?

  8. Very aptly put. I generally don’t care much about justifying myself. But sometimes the person on the other side is way too important than my high strung nose. It’s only then, when i take the pains to go that extra mile and clarify myself.

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