Be Kind to Yourself

1. Carve Out Some Time For Yourself. Every day carve out some time for yourself and do something that brings you joy. You can draw, journal, write short stories, play a musical instrument, or do anything else that you love to do. Be kind to yourself by giving yourself some “me time” each day.

2. Give Yourself Recognition. Often, we’re quick to acknowledge the achievements of others, but slow to acknowledge our own. That has to stop. Become aware of your own achievements and give yourself recognition.

When you do something you’re proud of, stop for a minute and dwell on it. Praise yourself and relish the achievement. Complement yourself. Pat yourself on the back and say the following: “Kudos to me!”

3. Cultivate Your Inner Advocate. We’re all familiar with the inner critic. It’s that little voice in our heads that’s quick to judge and is always ready with a put down. Well, it’s time for your inner critic to meet your inner advocate.

And who exactly is this inner advocate? It’s another voice in your head: the one that defends you. When your inner critic comes at you with ridicule and scorn, your inner advocate jumps in and presents arguments on your behalf. While your inner critic is against you, your inner advocate is for you.

Be kind to yourself by cultivating your inner advocate (mine wears Armani suits and carries a black leather Gucci brief case).

4. Forgive Yourself. We all mess up. Look at the following:

  • Maybe you did something in the past that you’re not proud of.
  • Perhaps you failed to stand up for yourself and you let someone else get the better of you.
  • You may have missed a great opportunity because you got scared.
  • Maybe you failed to follow through on an important goal.

If you’re angry at yourself, you need to show yourself kindness: stop blaming yourself, resolve to do better from now on, and forgive yourself.

5. Take Good Care of Yourself. One of the best ways to show yourself kindness is to take good care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat fruits and vegetables, and get some form of exercise on a regular basis. In addition, choose a way to release stress, be well groomed, and look after your appearance.

6. Respect Yourself. Self-respect is valuing yourself for who you are, and not allowing others to dictate your value. It’s trusting yourself, thinking for yourself, forming your own opinions, and making your own decisions. In addition, it’s refusing to compare yourself to others.

Finally, self-respect is about keeping your promises to yourself and following through on what you tell yourself that you’re going to do. Be kind to yourself by deeply respecting yourself.

7. Treat Yourself. I’m not advocating shopping therapy, or consumerism. However, if you see something that you really want, treat yourself. If it’s expensive, save up for it. You don’t have to wait for someone else to give it to you as a gift. Give it to yourself. (You get bonus points if you get the shop to wrap it in colorful gift wrap.)

8. Soothe Yourself. Did you have a tough day? Did you get into an argument with a co-worker or a friend? Did you bomb your presentation? Was it one of those days in which everything that could wrong, did go wrong? Be kind to yourself by soothing yourself. Do the following:

  • Soak in a hot tub. Add scented bath oil.
  • Give yourself a scalp massage. Rub your feet.
  • Make yourself some hot cocoa with little marshmallows in it and sit back with a mystery novel.
  • Lock your bedroom door, turn on some music, and dance around in your underwear.

After all, nobody knows how to soothe you better than you.

9. Remind Yourself of Your Good Qualities. Maybe you’re a little heavier than “the ideal body type”, but you have long, lustrous hair. Maybe you’re not great at sports, but you’re an ace at math. Maybe you have a tendency to be melodramatic, but you have a great sense of humor.
Always remind yourself of your good qualities.

10. Lift Yourself Up. When you fail, make a mistake, or do something wrong, you have two choices. You can tear yourself down, or you can lift yourself up. People who are kind to themselves choose the latter.

Tell yourself it’s going to be OK. Give yourself a morale boost by reminding yourself of your past successes. Then, come up with a plan for dealing with what happened, and take action.

11. Tell Yourself, “I Am Enough”. We’ve all had times in our lives when we’ve thought, “I’m not good looking enough, or smart enough, or strong enough to get what I want.” Stop it with the “I’m not enough” self-talk and replace it with the following;

  • “I’m enough, just as I am.”
  • “I’m worthy.”
  • “I deserve to be happy.”
  • “I deserve to have everything I want.”

In addition, tell yourself that nothing has to happen to make you worthy. You are already enough.

12. Honor Your Dreams. People who respect themselves–people who are kind to themselves–honor their dreams. That is, they don’t downplay their dreams by labeling them as silly fantasies. Instead, they take their dreams seriously by turning those dreams into goals, and creating a plan for achieving those goals.

13. Find the Sweet Spot Between Acceptance and Striving. Part of being kind to yourself is acknowledging your potential. As was stated in the previous point, you should know what you want and go after it. However, never being satisfied with where you are, or with what you have achieved so far in life, is being unkind to yourself.

Be kind to yourself by finding the sweet spot between being happy with who you are, while taking action to become even better.

14. Stop Trying to Be Perfect. People who set a standard of perfection for themselves are setting themselves up for failure. After all, perfection is unachievable. Can you think of anything more unkind than making success impossible for yourself?

Instead of setting a standard of “perfection” for yourself, aim to improve, one step at a time.

15. Show Yourself Compassion. In the book, How to Be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz, the authors recommend that you befriend yourself by showing yourself compassion. The best way to feel compassion for yourself is to imagine that someone you love is feeling hurt. Look at the following:

  • What would you say to them?
  • How would you treat them?
  • How would you reassure them?
  • How would you make them feel cared for and loved?

Now, do that for yourself — show yourself compassion.

16. Believe In Yourself. Part of being kind to yourself is wanting the best for yourself. And in order to get the best, you have to believe in yourself. Have faith in your own abilities and in your own judgment. Think highly of yourself: believe in yourself.

17. Accept Yourself. Accept yourself as you are. You have strengths, and you have weaknesses. Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you fail. Sometimes you’re right, and sometimes you’re wrong. Allow yourself to fully be who you are.

There’s only one person in the world you’ll always have a relationship with, and that’s yourself. Therefore, you better start making sure that you’re a good companion to yourself. Live your best life by being kind to yourself. You can get started with the 17 tips explained above.

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Tiniature

From passion and romance to heartache and heartbreak, love really is a many-splendored thing. You never know when you’ll fall in or out of love. You never know if you’ll get a happily-ever-after or a sad song. And that’s what makes it scary and exciting at the same time. It’s not difficult to explain that feeling called love at least for me and these 31 tiny tales will tell you why all’s fair in love. I thank Gayatri Gadre for starting this initiative called as #Tiniature where along with me many more bloggers/Tweeters and writers joined hands together to frame stories.  I successfully wrote the tiny stories weaving around the theme of Love throughout July 2017 and all these stories can be read below.

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Indibeam – Write & Publish your words

The writing commune is divided into two groups:

  1. writers who have Websites and
  2. Writers who don’t.

Having a Website will not necessarily make a writing career, and it alone won’t wrap up book deals, hitch literary agents, or guarantee best-seller status—but if you’re a writer hoping to get your novel, short stories, poetry, or essays published, having a writing platform is important which will encourage you to write more without being judged or biased which helps you to showcase your work in the right direction and is what Indibeam is all about.

‘Writers are our main assets’ – says Rahul Prajapati, who is one of the founders of Indibeam. We not only provide an encouraging and a supporting platform to publish content online but keep promoting and supporting writers. Writing is an honorable act. It’s one that the whole team of Indibeam embraces wholeheartedly and has been fortunate enough to provide online space for budding writers/bloggers to express themselves through words.

Indibeam was started in July 2017 by a team of four college friends, Rahul Prajapati, Abhishek Jungi, Jignesh Patel and Hiren Brahmbhatt based in Gujarat. They encourage budding and upcoming writers by publishing their original work from various genres. All this is available for free for readers. The founders’ team is very friendly and they expect its members to take personal interest in promoting this platform and support by suggestions and feedback to make it even better. Indibeam strives to create “The Best” platform for budding writers by honouring their creativity and thus bringing out their real talent, by enabling their writing through the website, and by spreading their work to the people through social media sharing and thus establishing them in their writing profession.

I strongly believe “Writing is a journey into the unknown”, and Indibeam is now moving ahead to make the unknown known. It is the perfect platform for self-discovery. With so many talented members already in it, it is a place where you learn and unlearn so many things about writing.  For the dreamers, for the schemers, let’s all grab this opportunity to put on our writing hats, put ‘pen to paper’ and get those creative juices flow in a right way. I am pompous to be a part of Indibeam and you can too join for free to publish your words, thoughts, opinions and to feel proud to be part of the elite club of writers. For more click here – Indibeam.

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Mitti Da Bawa

The Original Punjabi Lyrics 

Mitti da main bawa banani aan, ve jhagga paani aan, ve utte deni aan khesi ,
Soun ja mitti diaa baawiaa, ve tera pio pardesi

Mitti da bawa nahion bolda, nahion chaalda , naan hi denda e hungaara ,
Na ro mitti deaa baawiaa, ve tera pio banjaara

kade taan main launi aan tahliaan , ve pattaan vaaleean , ve mera patla maahi ,
kade launi aan shaihtoot , ve tainu samajh na aave

Mere jehiaan lakhkh goriaan ,ve tanee doriaan ,haae godee baal hindole ,
Hass hass dendiaan loreeaan, haae mere ladan sapole

English Translation :

I craft a little clay doll, make it wear little shirt, cover it with a blanket..
Don’t cry little clay doll, Your Dad is abroad..

My little clay doll does not speak, does not respond ..
Don’t cry little clay doll, Your Dad is a vagabond..

I planted the sheesham trees, they grew lovely leaves,aah my beloved..
I planted the trees of shehtoot. why don’t you correspond..

The other women of the town, as pretty as me, have kids in there lap..
Sing them lullabies , and my soul is snakes playground.

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