My Happiness List

I always think that for some reason a lot of us usually focus on things that stress us out or make us anxious, a lot more than we focus on things that make us happy. This is why I was so excited when my friend Vasantha tagged me to do the 12 Things That Make Me Happy tag. It’s really nice to pause and think about the things that I love and that make me happy. So, here I go… In no particular order and I plan to write 50 of them. 

1. Blogging!
2. Birthdays – love a birthday party!
3. New clothes, handbags, jewelry – anything new. It’s so exciting.
4. Reading & commenting on other blog posts.
5. Tweeting
6. Buying gifts for others
7. Meeting fellow bloggers on social media.
8. A full night sleep!
9. Going to the movies
10. The beach.
11. Reading a good book
12. High heels.
13. Fashion magazines
14. Seeing other people happy
15. The smell of fresh laundry
16. Shopping
17. Nail colors
18. Ghazals
19. Winters
20. Starbucks coffee
21. Mangoes
22. Comedy shows
23. Playing with my teddy bear
24. Writing
25. Getting appreciation
26. Golgappe
27. Monsoon
28. Winning contests
29. Unexpectedly finding money
30. Roses
31. Handwritten letters
32. Helping people
33. Rearranging furniture at home
34. Smoothies
35. Buying bangles
36. Hugs and kisses
37. Chocolates
38. Text messages
39. Waffles and pancakes
40. Ice cream
41. Travelling
42. Bookstores
43. New pens
44. Journals
45. Laughing
46. Evening walk
47. 90’s music
48. Conversations
49. Getting unexpected Gifts
50. When people who like/love me, express themselves to me.

Wow, it was much easier to hit 50 things than I thought. I was a little concerned it’d be hard to think of 50. But, I could keep going! Everyone should take a few minutes and make this list. It was a lot of fun.

I’d love to hear what makes you happy, so I’m tagging: Shraesta, Kunal, IshietaMasoom. You can write a list of 10-12-15-35-50…endless list of all those that makes you happy! Dont forget to Thank me! Yay!!

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I blog because

When I started blogging, I never ever imagined having followers or being as invested in it as I now am. Starting out as a place to vent and share everything that was going through my head during a very confusing few months. I was blogging because I was beginning to figure out who I was and because I had no friends.  At this point, I was blogging because I enjoyed it. It’s a habit that I really enjoy indulging. If I’m not posting, I’m on Twitter publicising posts or checking on my stats for the day. At this point I’d like to note that I read somewhere that you should only check stats once a week otherwise you’ll be disheartened and lose interest.  I blog because someone somewhere might be helped by my blog. It might inspire them, make them smile, provide a resource they’ve been looking for, or help them feel less alone. I blog because blogging is an accessible medium that allows me to publish whenever and whatever I want, and readers from all over the world can find it and read it for free.I blog because of the magical connections that can happen through blogging. Blogging has helped me form virtual and in-person relationships, both personal and professional, sometimes even across continents.

Now tell me what are your reasons for Blogging? Let us all share and discuss.

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My Reading TimeLine

After I thought a lot about my reading habits before & after blogging, I thought about my reading timeline/journey and how I’ve changed and grown as a reader. I was a voracious little reader (aww wasn’t I cute!) and would seriously read ANYTHING I could find. I was ALWAYS reading way above average in school and always felt I wanted to read MORE… I got into Goodreads 6years ago and started reading like CRAZY again. I started reading anything and everything — didn’t discriminate.

The thing about reading is this- it takes a long time. There are innumerable books in the world, and many more good ones than can be read by any mortal in a lifetime. It’s hard to choose — the best ones and the worst ones. This timeline showcases the significant books that I have read and attempted reviews in my blog since 2013.

  1. RIP
    2. Fuck nows
    3. Half Rupee Stories
    4. Manuscripts found in Accra
    5. Inferno
    6. Compass Box Killer
    7. My Rainbow: Seven Riveting Short Stories
    8. MBA is not about Money Blazer Arrogance
    9. Age of Hiblisk
    10. The Krishna key
    11. Cold feet
    12. Homing Pigeons
    13. English Bites
    14. The Reedemers
    15. Whisper Of The Worms
    16. Never Mind Yaar
    17. The Taj Conspiracy
    18. Almost Heaven
    19. Pitthos World
    20. You Adored Me Ignored
    21. Rozabel Line
    22. You are here
    23. Almost Single
    24. The Pleasure Seekers
    25. The Zoya Factor
    26. Life is what you make it
    27. Trust me
    28. Hitched: The Modern Women and Arranged Marriage
    29. Wise Enough To Be Foolish
    30. The Himalayan Revelation
    31. Untruly yours
    32. Living Courageously
    33. An Incurable Insanity
    34. The better man
    35. Chanakya’s Chant
    36. Baramulla Bomber
    37. Baker’s Dozen
    38. Marcel Proust in Taos: In Search of Times Past
    39. Uff Yeh Emotions
    40. Amar Akbar Anthony
    41. The Caretaker
    42. Mahabharata Secret
    43. The Hunt For Kohinoor
    44. Delhi Makeover
    45. Treasure of Kafur
    46. Night train to Jamalpur
    47. Templar Conspiracy
    48. The Weight Loss Club
    49. In Cold Blood
    50. Eve’s Tomb
    51. Love Virtually
    52. Every Seventh Wave
    53. From Blood
    54. On Beauty
    55. Super traits of Superstars
    56. It’s never too late
    57. The other side
    58. Prisoner Jailor Prime Minister
    59. The other side of the table
    60. Never say never
    61. A God in Every Stone
    62. The kite flyers
    63. Sita’s Curse
    64. Pure Drivel
    65. Angel’s wisdom
    66. Lal Bahadur Shastri
    67. The Devil’s Gate: An Impossible Journey
    68. Archer’s revenge
    69. I am dead but my heart beats
    70. Anti social network
    71. Bad Romance
    72. The deliberate sinner
    73. The Evolution of Calpurnia Tate
    74. The emperor’s riddles
    75. And we remained
    76. Far beyond the dead end
    77. Private India
    78. Ramayana
    79. Round Ireland with a Fridge
    80. Seduced by Murder
    81. The last word
    82. Manhattan Mango
    83. Neela Scarf
    84. Whisper of the Worms
    85. Fraudster
    86. God is a Gamer
    87. Nick and Norahs playlist
    88. Mahabharata Quest
    89. Half Girlfriend
    90. 60minutes
    91. 7 secrets of goddess
    92. The Arrow of the Blue Skinned God
    93. Fraudster
    94. Lost in Pattaya
    95. Talking cinema
    96. Collection of Urdu poetry
    97. Love Stories
    98. Neglected Poems
    99. Svaha
    100. Siddhartha
    101. The Mine
    102. Great Horror Stories
    103. Malala
    104. Jesus Lived in India
    105. Shattered Dreams
    106. The Karna Pages
    107. Three Faced Coin
    108. True Love
    109. The Many Lives of Ruby Iyer
    110. The Woman who Went to Bed for a Year
    111. Blood Monarch
    112. Fade into Red
    113. The Rise of the Setting Sun- Story of an Ordinary Indian
    114. Nowhere to Goa
    115. Shattered Dreams
    116. Antique Magic
    117. Antique Forgery
    118. He Fixed the Match and She Fixed Him
    119. Amsterdam: A History of the World’s Most Liberal City
    120. White Swans A Regency World
    121. The Recession Groom
    122. When she smiled
    123. The Growing pains of Adrian Mole
    124. Gulab
    125. Ghalib
    126. Fault in our stars
    127. Gone Girl
    128. Short stories by Khushwant Singh
    129. Mango Chutney
    130. The year I met you
    131. PS I Love you
    132. Rise of the Grey prince
    133. Maharaja in Denims
    134. Hifi in Bollywood
    135. Kuch khwaab sagar se
    136. Finders Keepers
    137. The Middleman
    138. Garden
    139. The Amazing Racist
    140. Defined by others
    141. The waxing moon
    142. The waning moon
    143. The Guardians of Halahala
    144. Accidental Wife
    145. Metro Diaries
    146. You’re password of my life
    147. The Guitar Girl
    148. Curse of The Red Soil
    149. Mithra
    150. Story of Tublu
    151. Changes
    152. Antique Discovery
    153. The Fifth Gospel
    154. Checkmate
    155. Operation Jai Mata Di
    156. Bhimayana
    157. Capturing wildlife moments in India
    158. Title is Untitled
    159. Black, Grey and White
    160. The Departing Point
    161. Surrogate Author
    162. Delirium
    163. The Weight Loss Club: The Curious Experiments of Nancy Housing Cooperative
    164. Be a BA
    165. God’s Table
    166. Adhuri Prem Kahaniyan
    167. Second Heart
    168. Dear wife, your husband is not a superhero
    169. The Eligible Princess
    170. Sewing Can Be Dangerous And Other Small Threads
    171. The Last Nizam
    172. Imperfect Series
    173. Brihadaaranyaka Upanishad
    174. Verses from the Dhammapada
    175. The Seventh Cup
    176. Panther
    177. Scion of Ikshvaku
    178. Equinox
    179. Guruji’s Ashram
    180. Legacy
    181. Made In India
    182. Paradise lost and regained
    183. Take 2
    184. The withering Banyan
    185. Age of Apostasy
    186. Our Heritage
    187. Warrior
    188. Umbilicalcord
    189. Secrets of the dark
    190. Arcane Rhapsodies
    191. A yellow winged stranger
    192. Palms Foster Home For Peculiar Stories
    193. Voicemates
    194. 35 and sexless in Ahmedabad
    195. Ekla Cholo rey
    196. Khel the writings
    197. Chasing Illusions
    198. Allahabad Aria
    199. Arushi
    200. Mrs Funny Bones
    201. Zealot
    202. Killing Jesus
    203. Magic
    204. Something happened on the way to heaven
    205. You are my best Wife
    206. The best seller she wrote
    207. Unanswered
    208. Ramayana3
    209. Abhaya
    210. Get a job without interview
    211. The other end of the corridor
    212. Dwapara Yug
    213. Monkeys, motorcycles and misadventures
    214. Babaji Inc
    215. Right or Almost Right: The Fine Line Between Phenomenal Success and Average Results in Network Marketing
    216. 50 Amazing houses of India
    217. Chronicles of corpse bearer
    218. Letters from an Indian summer
    219. Tweenache in the times of hashtags
    220. Raakshas
    221. Right fit wrong shoe
    222. The mother I never knew
    223. Life Mantras
    224. Color me rich
    225. Savoire Faire
    226. The honest season
    227. The Da Vinci code
    228. Angels and Demons
    229. The lost symbol
    230. Inferno
    231. Leonardo da Vinci
    232. The atheists mass
    233. The Devil’s Prayer
    234. Surpanakha
    235. Jangshersingh.com
    236. Ulysses
    237. X in sex
    238. How Starbucks Saved My Life: A Son of Privilege Learns to Live Like Everyone Else
    239. You’ve Got the Wrong Girl
    240. The Alchemy of reality
    241. The Japanese wife
    242. The last of firedrakes
    243. Wrong means right end
    244. The Jungle Book
    245. Encounters
    246. Panorama
    247. False ceilings
    248. You raise me up
    249. The question
    250. My last love story
    251. Another love story
    252. The youngster who became spy
    253. U and I
    254. Letters to her
    255. Kaleidoscope
    256. Raavi Paar
    257. Truth Love and Malice
    258. The Lowland
    259. The seduction of Delhi
    260. The great Indian novel
    261. Pride and Prejudice
    262. Secretly Yours
    263. Multitudes of ripples
    264. Asura
    265. Manto
    266. I am big so what
    267. Indiblogger stories
    268. Coffee shop of Kabul
    269. The Mahabharata Code
    270. Vikram Rana
    272. 03.02
    273. The speaking ghost of rajpur
    274. Silent realities
    275. The calling
    276. The diary of lutyen’s princess
    277. Rightfully wrong
    278. Secret of God’s son
    279.  Anya’s Lyrics
    280.  Vikramaditya Veergatha Book 2 – The Conspiracy at Meru
    281. The BNO: Sex, Life And Hookah
    282. The Peshwa: The Lion and The Stallion

 

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50 reasons to be head-over-heels in love- With yourself.

Today I am a grown woman. With a more mature and grounded outlook on life. I was a different person than I was back in the day, I still suffer from those moments of feeling less than in love with myself. It happens more often than I’d like to admit.

So today I wanted make a list of reasons why you rock. Why you’re worth it. Why you matter. Why you’re unique.

1. You are 150% unique. There will never be anyone just like you. You’re like the hope diamond.

2. Your heart is as big as an ocean. Your capacity for loving others (and yourself) is endless.

3. You’re resilient as hell! There’s nothing in life you can’t overcome.

4. You feel. That’s right, you have an emotional vocabulary.

5. You have dreams. And you haven’t stopped believing in them

6. You’re not perfect. and that’s A-OK.

7. Your smile. I mean, take a look in the mirror. That smile of yours is contagious!

8. You’re grateful. You know that you wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for all the glory and pain of the past.

9. Your kindness to others.

10. You’re open to growing.

11. You have a keen appreciation for beauty. You see the beauty in the world.

12. You’re full of insanely good ideas.

13. You’re strong. You’ve weathered the storms. You’ve come out alive.

14. You are creative.

15. Your inner goofball. Or outer goofball. Either way, you’re goofy, dorky, silly and that makes you all kinds of special (in the best possible way)!

16. You’re still a kiddo at heart.

17. You show up. Yep, you do. You show up for your life, for your friends, your family, your job, your pets, yourself. You show up. Kudos to you my friend!

18. Your dance moves.

19. Your naiveté.

20. Your sweetness.

21. Your authenticity.

22. Your ability to bring out the best in others.

23. Your brainiac smarts.

24. You’re a crazy good problem solver.

25. Your inner rockstar who knows just when to step it up, pull out all the stops and rock life like these guys.

26. Your self-respect.

27. Your beautiful body shape that is utterly and uniquely you.

28. Your faith which gets you through the rough patches.

29. Your inner fantasy land.

30. Your fears – yes your fears.

31. Your vulnerability.

32. Your love of entertainment and art.

33. Your story, which is what makes you uniquely you.

34. You’re a seeker. You seek answers, like-minded friends, the best restaurant in town, and what’s true for you.

35. Your senses of sight, smell, sound, touch, taste and intuition are finely tuned and always available.

36. Your love of nature. The ocean, the mountains, the grass, the desert.

37. Your ability to be carried away. I

38. Your imagination creates incredible worlds, fanciful scenarios and very real business opportunities.

39. Your excellent taste in music.

40. Your choices.

41. Your sense of style.

42. Your presence.

43. Your hair. Your eyes. Your stomach. Your nose. Your arms. Your legs. Your mouth. Your toes. Your bootie. All of you is gorgeous and worthy of heaps of love.

44. Your perspective on the world. It’s not like anyone else’s. It’s what makes you, you. So thank you!

45. Your ability to sink really low.

46. Your quirky habits.

47. The way you defend the ones you love. You don’t stand for no crap. And you will protect the ones you love – always. Always.

48. Your sweet tooth.

49. Your honesty is admirable.

50. The way you love. You give love. You feel love. You spread love. You breathe love. You = love.

So, in the spirit of self-love, I’ve got a little challenge for you. I want you to write down 50 special things that you LOVE about yourself.

And be sure to make it count. Don’t just say, “I love my eyes.” Instead, try to write reason(s) why you love them.

Are you game? Let me know if you’ll be doing the challenge and share what are the reasons YOU have for having more self-love?

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99 Things I love – My Random Thoughts

As the tides change and I start a new year in life, what better time to write what I love.

Here’s 99 things I love most in this world. Be it food, drink, people, things, places… anything. It doesn’t matter how small. These are things that bring me joy, tantalize my taste buds, make me laugh and smile, and warm my heart. That was actually really fun. I tried to just let the thoughts flow. I thought I would run out of things to list after about 50 or so but more ideas just kept coming.  I enjoyed this exercise and I encourage you to do the same! Would your list match mine?

1. Mr B tops this list. He is my man, my soon-to-be husband, and my world and his happiness means a lot to me.
2. Having the freedom to do what I love, such as writing.
3. The beach at sunset, breeze in the hair, waves lapping at the shore.
4. Adult colouring books.
5. Me time with Mr B
6. Freshly washed and conditioned hair.
7. A good book I can’t put down.
8. Clean towels and bed sheets.
9. Earning enough money to cover the bills, food and a little extra.
10. A good pillow. Can’t go through life without it.
11. Helping others.
12. The moon and stars.
13. Big, long, heartfelt bear hugs.
14. Blogging.
15. Travelling.
16. My 4 tattoos.
17. My 8 piercings in my ears.
18. My kohled eyes.
19. Music that touches the heart and soul.
20. Continual learning and growth.
21. Sleeping.
22. A comfy, well-fitted pair of blue jeans and white shirt.
23. My laptop.
24. My Ipad
25. Relaxing, which could also be interpreted as laziness.
26. Road tripping with my man.
27. Comfy pyjamas or shorts, all the better for sleeping in.
28. Being strong enough to finally not be dragged down by jealous types who insist on trying to drag one down time after time after time.
29. Good news, told to me personally…not broadcast publicly via social media or texts.
30. A nice hot cup of coffee and it is the cure to almost anything – and cookies.
31. Gifting friends and people.
32. Feeling healthy. It doesn’t happen a lot, but when it does it feels awesome.
33. Walking along a beach with the fine-grained sand massaging your feet as the sun sets slowly up above.
34. Pedicures
35. Massages.
36. Feeling comfortable in my skin. It took me years to feel it and accept it.
37. Ice cream.
38. Paris. After all, Paris is always a good idea.
39. Diwali lights
40. Bangles.
41. Henna
42. My colored hair
43. Chicken
44. Snuggling with my man
45. Holding hands and walking – you know with whom, Mr B
46. Stationery
47. Royal Enfield bikes
48. Conversations
49. Exhibitions and rural melas
50. Being at home and just putting my feet up on the table and watching TV
51. Reading jokes aloud and laughing along
52. Shopping – big time, online and offline both
53. Desserts
54. pictures that turns out well when I click them
55. compliments and appreciations
56. Movies in the theatres
57. Rains
58. Magnificent historical monuments. Taj Mahal is 1st in my list.
59. Giving my house makeovers.
60. Files, folders, diaries and bookmarks.
61. Smell of well cooked food especially Butter chicken
62. Fridge Magnets
63. Winning contests
64. Making others laugh or smile
65. Those moments when Mr B kisses me
66. Housework – equally therapeutic. Washing, Laundry, Mopping. Everything. The works.
67. Painting
68. Jhumkas
69. Sexual chemistry which Mr B and I share is just amazing!!
70. Making lists, obviously. My to-do lists are the secret of my success.
71. Internet. Oh, the possibilities! How would I ever meet Mr B if there was no Internet?
72. Mondays. Really. I love the start of a new week! So full of potential.
73. Deadlines. Love the pressure and the challenge.
74. Selfies
75. Hand written letters
76. Coke studio or live music
77. Encouraging new writers/bloggers
78. Chocolates
79. Fresh roses
80. Lingeries
81. Milk shakes
82. Cakes
83. Comedy shows
84. Literature especially Urdu
85. Jagjit Singh’s ghazals
86. Twitter
87. Finding the perfect gift for myself.
88. Getting on a plane, and the moment before take-off
89. Bookstores
90. When Mr B says I love you to me.
91. Sharing myself through writing
92. The idea of setting up my own house with Mr B
93. Bags!!!
94. My room
95. Celebrating festivals, and making arrangements for them.
96. Walking or jogging
97. Ladakh
98. India Gate, especially during Republic Day celebrations
99. All that which would make me married to my Mr B – my wedding ring, my bangles, my sindoor and my mangalsutra *very soon*

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200 Things To Do Before I Die

  1. Be a leader
  2. Head of the school
  3. Be on the TV
  4. Act in a play
  5. Play Badminton
  6. Learn driving
  7. Get a poem published
  8. Publish an e-book
  9. Be a famous blogger
  10. Get an article published in a magazine
  11. Meet my favourite author
  12. Attend a High School Reunion
  13. Meet a Blog Reader in Person
  14. Meet Someone Famous
  15. Receive a Fan Letter
  16. Reconnect with an Old Friend
  17. Design a Website
  18. Inspire someone to start a blog
  19. Take an Art Class
  20. Work on a Pottery Wheel
  21. Knit a Scarf
  22. Make a Handmade Gift
  23. Make a Tie Dye Dupatta
  24. Make Soap
  25. Surprise Someone
  26. Attend a Film Premiere
  27. Attend a Music Festival
  28. Attend live in concert show
  29. Be on the Cover of a Magazine
  30. Contact Someone with My Own Name
  31. Have My Picture Published in a Newspaper
  32. Read the Book Before the Movie
  33. Learn Dance
  34. Have long hair
  35. Jump from a tree
  36. Visit a dam
  37. Achieve my Ideal Weight
  38. Go on a Spontaneous Road Trip
  39. Own a self hosted dot com
  40. Visit Paris
  41. Fly First Class
  42. Go on a Safari
  43. Run a marathon
  44. Own a home
  45. Decorate a room with my own artwork
  46. Master the art of story writing
  47. Fluent in Arabic
  48. Be a vibrant person
  49. Master the art of simple conversation
  50. Get Tattoo(s)
  51. Multiple piercings
  52. Hold a tiger/lion cub
  53. Watch the Sunrise & Sunset in one Day
  54. Be a Bridesmaid
  55. Have a Meaningful Conversation With a Stranger
  56. Share a Cab with a Stranger
  57. Sing a Karaoke
  58. Visit your Childhood Home
  59. Write a Love letter
  60. Go on a Cruise
  61. Pose with a Figure at a Wax Museum
  62. See a 3-D movie
  63. Be on NASA’s list
  64. Be Blond for a Day
  65. Gift myself Victoria secrets
  66. Find the Perfect Black Dress
  67. Get a Complete Makeover
  68. Get a Fish Pedicure
  69. Get a Foot Massage
  70. Get a Spa Pedicure
  71. Get a Professional Body Massage
  72. Go a Week Without Makeup
  73. Have a diamond Facial
  74. Have my Palm and Face Read
  75. Own a Fabulous Pair of Designer Shoes
  76. Sit Front Row at a Fashion Show
  77. Have no Credit Card Debt
  78. Bake a Cake
  79. Cook With a Celebrity Chef
  80. Create my Signature Dish
  81. Drink a Bottle of Trendy Champagne
  82. Eat Breakfast in Bed
  83. Eat Alone at a Restaurant
  84. Eat at a Food Truck
  85. Eat Caviar
  86. Go to a Vodka Lounge
  87. Taste the best whiskey
  88. Learn to Use Chopsticks
  89. Recreate a Classic Dish
  90. Be a Tourist in You Own Town
  91. Build a Sand Castle
  92. Eliminate Junk Mail
  93. Finish a Crossword Puzzle
  94. Google Search My Name & Have at Least 1 Page of Stuff
  95. Have a Collection
  96. Join a Book Club
  97. Read a Book on the NY Best Sellers List
  98. Share Your Most Embarrassing Moment
  99. Solve a Rubiks Cube
  100. Stay Awake for 24 Hours
  101. Be a Mentor
  102. Do a Random Act of Kindness
  103. Donate Books
  104. Donate Clothing
  105. Entertain the Elderly at a Nursing Home
  106. Feed a Homeless Person
  107. Find the Meaning of Your Name
  108. Have a “Dr” Prefix before/by 30
  109. Make a Significant Change in Someone’s Life
  110. Read a Classic Novel
  111. Read a Trilogy
  112. Send Flowers to Myself
  113. Spend the Entire Day By Myself
  114. Teach a Class
  115. Go without a mobile for a week
  116. Volunteer
  117. Write a Book
  118. Write a Poem
  119. Write a Haiku
  120. Turn a Selfie Queen
  121. Be Social Media Famous
  122. Create an alter Ego
  123. Have fans and admirers
  124. Be a linguistic
  125. Know a non-Hindi song by heart
  126. Buy a car
  127. Own solitaires
  128. Get an autograph of a celebrity
  129. Love a man – truly, madly and deeply
  130. To have a man, who is in love with me for the person I am
  131. Get tagged as ‘crazy couple in love’
  132. Be an Apple User
  133. Have lots of sex
  134. Stalk people
  135. Own a high brand designer bag
  136. Get my smile corrected
  137. Stay in a 5 or a 7 star hotel
  138. Taste beef or pork
  139. Gift myself Christian Dior lipstick
  140. Blog to cross 50,000 hits
  141. Wear a saree
  142. Walk the ramp
  143. Gift myself an expensive watch
  144. Gift someone books or wardrobe pieces
  145. Experience a MRI scan
  146. Visit Wagah and Amritsar
  147. Trip to Ladakh
  148. Visit Rekhta event
  149. Be reason for someone’s success
  150. Take part in Challenges
  151. Sign autographs and pose for selfies
  152. Read 50 books in a year
  153. Cook together, he and me
  154. Do something with him that we both have been afraid to do
  155. Spend all day watching movies with him
  156. Kiss at the top of the Eiffel Tower
  157. Take an overnight train ride with him.
  158. Dine out at least once a week
  159. Hold hands with him and go on shopping spree.
  160. Spend the day at the beach. Splash each other. Shriek with laughter.
  161. Exchange secret smiles with him at a large gathering of people ( with the families around)
  162. Watch him shave
  163. To have a nice personal nickname by him.
  164. Fall asleep on him while talking to each other.
  165. To be appreciated for what I am.
  166. To have at least 5 people who love to read whatever I write.
  167. Own a high resolution camera
  168. Win a recognized blog award
  169. Get pampered without any limits
  170. Receive a surprise birthday party
  171. Romantically enjoy the rain
  172. See the painting of Monalisa at Louvre
  173. Visit the Taj Mahal with my man
  174. Ride in the metro at Delhi or Mumbai local
  175. Cycling with him
  176. Road trip on bike with him
  177. Celebrate New year with him
  178. Eat and eat lots of Haleem and the Iftar food during Ramzan
  179. Honeymoon at the beach
  180. Visit Kashmir
  181. Live cricket match at the stadium
  182. Start my own bi monthly column in my blog
  183. Grow tomatoes and chillies at home
  184. Get married to the man I love the most
  185. A nice red suit, mehndi and my chura on the wedding day.
  186. Have babies and maintain their scrapbook

Have you made your bucket list yet? Life is short, live it. Live your dreams! Set your intentions and accomplish them!

 

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#MagicOfLove – Valentine’s Day Contest

“Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale.” – We grow up watching Cinderella fall in love with her prince charming, Sleeping Beauty being saved by her prince and other love stories in the Disney.  Are you a hopeless romantic? Or a dreamer for true love who believes in fairytales? Everyone has a love story out there. It is for this reason that love stories are among the most compelling ones we read.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I am doing #MagicOfLove contest where I call bloggers to share their real love stories as I know every love story is unique I want you to share yours! Celebrate the special people in your life, from loved ones, friends and family, for the chance to win the contest.

TOPICS TO BLOG ABOUT

1. Share your real life story about how you met or proposed your spouse/partner?
2. Write a love letter to anyone or anything you love the most in your life.
3. Describe the most romantic date of your life OR what is your favorite romantic book. 

RULES

1. The entry post should have minimum 350 words and maximum 500 words. 
2. The Contest starts on 1st February 2017 and ends on 15th February 2017. The winners will be announced on 20th February 2017.
3. Contest open to bloggers with valid blog and email addresses only in India.
4. Please follow me on Twitter @romspeaks for updates.
5. Two entries per blogger are allowed and only fresh entries written for this contest will be accepted.
6. Every post to have this mandatory line – ‘I am writing this post towards #MagicOfLove contest by Novemberschild
7. The entry(s) to be submitted in the comment box of this post.

PRIZES

Now to what everyone is looking forward to, the prizes! I will be awarding a first and second prize to Two entries.

First Place: Rs 1000 voucher from Amazon

Second Place: Rs 500 voucher from Amazon

I am looking forward to all of your submissions and can’t wait to read them. Good Luck to everyone!

 

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Why I choose to love myself

For me life was never easy. My problems had to do with my self-loathing attitude. I struggled feeling comfortable in my own skin, had a huge amount of insecurities, and unresolved inner conflicts that all bubbled to the surface as soon as I didn’t have something to distract myself from them.

Once I realized this, it all made sense. I realized that no matter what I achieved or had in my life I would always be in a state of lacking. My toxic attitude was rendering me incapable of seeing the beauty that was in front of me.

I knew I had to do something because if I kept living this way I would continue setting myself up for an eternal state of lacking. I would be choosing to stay the same and relinquish my right to choose what is of my life.

So I decided to choose to create a life I love. Every time I would catch myself thinking I was stupid, I’d pause, take a deep breath, and change my language. One of my biggest blocks to self-love was thinking I wasn’t smart enough. Slowly shifting to the growth mindset, in which I believe that my intelligence is something I change and build upon, has been hugely important. The point of the growth mindset is to believe that you’re abilities are always expandable. You can always grow as a person as long as you put in the work.

Today I am choosing to love myself because love is my purpose. I am in this world to spread love, and of “being” love. By embodying love, I am honoring my own unique contribution to the world. I came to see that I have worth and value. I am “fearfully and wonderfully made.” Despite my constant subjection to people who are prettier than me, more talented than me, and more intelligent than me, I still choose to love me. I’m not perfect; I never will be and that is okay.

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Go away Resolutions

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Let’s face it — it’s pretty pointless waiting all year to decide on one or two things that you kind, sort to want to stop doing, but that you know full well you’re not really committed to following through with anyway. How crazy is that? Resolutions don’t work. Stop smoking? Start exercising? Eat healthily? More work/life balance? These all sound good on the surface, but typically a resolution is based on what you think you should be doing, rather than what you really want to be doing. Too often, resolutions are decided upon by looking at other peoples expectations or by reading a magazine that tells you how to ‘get fit by summer’. Nonsense – forget about what you or other people think you ought to be doing and look at what you really want.

The problem is that as soon as you set yourself a goal you’re saying to yourself that you want more in your life than you have right now. The very nature of goals make you look forwards at what’s next, never at what you’ve got right now. Goals have the tendency to make you feel less-than, because there’s something you don’t have now that you aspire to have in the future. The real gold and real value is in the experience, NOT in the end result.

The problem is that you’re taking something that doesn’t mean anything to you and trying to make it happen. Resolutions lack a foundation of meaning and personal relevance that makes sure they run out of steam. Sure, you might get an initial burst of motivation that gets you started, but that never lasts. Motivation is like the big rocket boosters on the space shuttle – it gives you an initial spurt of energy to get up and get moving, but it’s just not sustainable.

Not only are you coming off the back of the holidays and getting back to the harsh realities of the world, but you see the whole of the year stretching ahead of you and summer’s a whole 6 months away. Living a full life isn’t about making some woolly, half-hearted decisions that don’t really mean anything. That’s not what truly confident people do. Instead, make confident choices based on what really matters to you, and jump in with both feet.

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To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved

I don’t know why, but I can’t bring myself to trust people. Every time I’ve trusted people in the past I’ve been let down, so now it’s easier and less painful to just rely on myself. Maybe you feel similarly, and even if you don’t, you’ve probably experienced broken trust in a past relationship that has caused you to question whether or not it’s worth trusting again. When you find yourself struggling to decide whether or not to trust someone, it’s important to figure out the reasons why. Our propensity to trust is based on many factors, chief among them being our personality, early childhood role models and experiences, beliefs and values, culture, self-awareness and emotional maturity. The combination of these factors and experiences shapes how quickly, and how much trust we extend to others. Your experiences may have resulted in you viewing trust as something to be earned, not given, so therefore you withhold trust from others until you’re absolutely sure they deserve it. Even then, you may only extend trust grudgingly or in small amounts. Having a low propensity to trust can hold you back from experiencing true joy and fulfillment in relationships. Unrealistic, unspoken, and unclear expectations are a primary cause for low or broken trust in relationships, and the higher the expectations the more likely it is they won’t be met. Trust usually isn’t something people openly talk about or address in relationships until it’s been broken, and by then it’s often too late to salvage the relationship or the breach of trust seems too big to overcome. Clarifying expectations is preventative medicine when it comes to trust. It’s much better to have the awkward or uncomfortable discussion up front about roles, responsibilities, and expectations, than it is to deal with the fallout when either party falls short. Trust is as vital to healthy relationships as oxygen is to a scuba diver; survival is impossible without it. Whether it’s a naturally low propensity to trust, having unrealistic expectations, or letting our past hurts hold us back from trusting others, we have to move beyond these reasons if we want to have trust-filled relationships in the future.

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